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We had a parent meeting at school the other night! We discussed reasons that parents need time off. How many of you take time off for yourselves? In what way do you spend the time you take off? The children are better off if we take time off, since we will be less stressed out if we do!
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1. rintintin (2348)  | 7 months ago | Good post, People do need time off for themselves,very true. Mum and Dad really do need time when just for a while,they can let their guard down and be more than just mum and dad. Failure to do this,can result in resentment at all levels. Many people get into their 40,s,kids all grown up,and discover they have nothing in common with their spouses any more. This can be in no small part put down to the fact they didnt have time for themselves on a regular basis. I know,because it happened to my parents. Stress to,as you mention is a major player in most peoples lives,as the rat race gets faster and faster,and applies more pressure on us to keep up. We need to destress. Families,where the extended family is a good one,probably have less stress in their personal lives because there is usually a bay sitter readily available. Anything that improves the atmosphere at home will impact positevly on the children. My wife and I used to go dancing quite a lot. It was a good way to de stress,and keep fit,and allow as to socialise as Jim and Yvonne again
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | I wish I had an extended family but I moved thousands of miles away, so I can only hope to be the extended family my kids need when they start having families of their own! dancing is fun and good exercise too! thanks for being the first person ever to respond to one of my posts!
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2. kellys3ps (1854) | 7 months ago | I agree that taking time to yourself makes you a better parent, that being said, I am terrible at taking my own advice! I try to take a little time to myself on the computer, but I don't get out away from the kids very often.
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | One thing they mentioned was not to clean while the children watch tv! We should have the children help us or else they learn that they do not need to do chores, and that the children will end up watching more tv! Maybe you can get some time in the bathtub? Soothing music and essential oils can help relax us.
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3. cripfemme (3037) | 7 months ago | Although I am not a parent, I am a daughter and learned very quickly at a very young age that my mom needed time off from being "mommy" 24/7. Now, as I have no kids, I'm happy to provide my friends with time off from their kids by being a babysitter. It's good for the parent, it's good for the kid (as they have someone new to entertain and to entertain them), and it's good for me as I adore kids. I think that stressed out parents need to find single, kidless but kid-liking people and make friends so that they can utilize this relationship as my friends do with me.
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | Yes, that was one way we discussed getting time to unwind! family or friends can help, so that we do not become abusive or resentful! It is not selfish to do this either!
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4. corimcl (2054) | 7 months ago | I think taking time for yourself is very important. I try to go out to dinner with the girls once a month for dinner. Most of us are parents and its a nice time get adult conversation and some laughs. I highly reccomend getting time off just to keep you sane.LOL
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | It is definitely about being able to have adult conversations! I like to watch the children's television shows but I really need adult conversation! Going out to dinner once a month is not too often and should be good for your spirit!
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5. dtroas (337) | 7 months ago | When my children go to bed I call that my pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We as parents love our children. Yes parents and kids both need time apart from each other. My mom will get my girls 2 fridays out of the month for us. Which helps out a great deal. Not only is it stressful on us it is to the kids when there is no time apart. Good post!
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | It is so good that your mom can help! My mom lives too far away, so she can only help if one of us goes to visit the other one. We went to visit last summer, and she helped the children learn a lot that they did not know yet!
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6. ellie333 (4702) | 7 months ago | Tonight of all nights tis question is asked. I love being a mum have three beautiful children but other than a night out with the girls from work on 31st January I haven't had a break from my son, other than his 2 hrs at school or when I work since 21st April 2007. I was actually looking forward to going out this evening and as a single parent his dad had agreed to come over and babysit, he did arrive but got so stressed out with my son I didn't feel I could go out and leave him. I'm tired from work, tired from running around doing things for everyone except for me and yes I do need a ME break. My middle daughter also returned home recently so the normal routine has had to have adjustments made even though its lovely to have her here. Yes as parents we do need to take time for us even if that time just means being on here chatting for a couple of hours, away from the chores, away from being mum and just being Ellie for a while. I feel if we have that time to spend on us we come back more refreshed and able to give more as a parent. Ellie:D
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olivemai (2558) | 7 months ago | I know what you mean! the little ones are so cute but they are quite demanding on us for time and attention! It is part of a child abuse prevention effort to teach parents to take time off, and that it is not a bad thing but a good thing to do! Why does your son only go to school for two hours? My husband helps but he also does things his way!
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ellie333 (4702) | 7 months ago | In earlier response should have said his dad got stressed out with him not me, but the reason he only goes 2 hours is because he is still too little to go fulltime which he will do in September, then I guess I'll have a little more me time. My other kids are 21 and 17 so I was an older mother and don't have as much physical energy as I had when the girls were small. I'm off too bed in a bit as 11.30pm here. Just tired I think. Ellie:D
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olivemai (2558) | 6 months ago | I am now an older mother too! I need less sleep now and really appreciate my alone time after the younger set goes to sleep! Some nights I go to sleep early, so I get some extra sleep, but I do not need it as often as I did when I was younger! I hope you get some time off and relax with some tea, if you prefer it!
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