To the women of mylot, I have a question for you....

maybe I am a bit old fashioned but I love these little signs of politeness a lot. It does not happen much any more and when it does I am a bit embarrassed first but always say thanks or smile.

I think chivalry means alot, and yes you should expect at least a smile if not a thank you. I know my man opens my doors and if we are out he holds the door for others, one of the many reasons I love him:)Keep up the good work, I know I am teaching my boys the same, it says alot about a guy that still has good ol' fashioned manners no matter what you call it.

i think still it means something.
Now in workplace it is said that these do not matter that much.it is also not accepted. But in informal way I, being a woman feel good.

for me it means respect
always when i take the bus, if a man is in front of me, he let me go in before him
its nice, I think

If you can do that, frequently, and any other details. Even in marriage, you still never forget that. I don't believe your wife will comply about you, or neither she will leave you. She will reward you what men most wanted in their life. A reward for what you had done to her, this is sick stuff for men, but most important point or value to woman.

But this must be matched with the girl who can adapt according to the situation. Not all girls notice the details, because;

According to John Gray, there is a type of girl who don't let the man opened the door while they are the one who opened the door for her man. It's the woman who faced Emotional Changing Role type 2: Woman who did the most.

If someone happens to get to the door first (female or male) and someone is behind them, in need of an open door (female or male) that is one thing, but if someone is going to hold the door or me just because I'm female, they can skip it. I want to be respected for who I am, not because of my gender.

I think that when someone holds a door opened for someone it just shows common human decency an respect. If I were not married and I was dating I would feel that if the guy opened the car door for me that he was showing me some respect. Same for pulling me seat out for me. This is just my opinion but I don't understand why someone would be insulted by a man being a gentleman. Of course if I continued to date someone for a while I might say you don't need to do that all the time. I don't expect it of my husband, except when we are dressed up for something special. If I am wearing a dress and high heels I appreciate it if comes and opens my car door and lends me an arm as we are walking in. When I was pregnant I expected him to come and help me get my big round self out of the car every time. To answer your question I always give a thank you and a smile when ever someone has taken a moment to be kind. But I can't guarantee that every woman acts or feels the same. If a woman is coming towards a door all huffy and puffy and in a big rush, you might want to get out of her way.

I can't speak for everybody, but for me it is very important. I do smile and thank men. I also will hold the door for others. I think the smile and thank you should be automatic. Especially young people, I like to encourage this behavior.

It means something to me. I am not a huge feminist when it comes to things like that.

My husband does these things. So do my sons. My father used to walk on the outside of the sidewalk. I had to look up why he insisted on walking there....lol.

It seems that with so many other manners lacking today, even these little things should be appreciated.

And I always smile or say thanks when someone opens the door for me or lets me go first. To me, it's just common courtesy. I DO let little old people go in or out a door before me, and people with their hands full if I don't have anything. I don't mind holding the door for someone...man or woman.

I suppose it depends. Genuine chivalry is nice, as long as it is truly who you are. I don't like some strange guy to run over and do something JUST to get my attention. In my opinion, that isn't genuine. The thing about today is that many women (like me) do things on their own all day, and we get used to doing things on our own. We don't expect people (strangers) to cater to us or help, so sometimes when somebody does, it's almost an affront. You have to be careful now to not have it appear to a woman that you are helping her because she cannot do it on her own. I know that sounds odd but it's true. I appreciate help if it's obvious I need someone to get a door for me because I have a stroller and 3 kids hanging off it, but it's less likely I'll be happy if someone comes over and picks up something for me without asking if I needed them do. Do you see the difference?