A Mom's love story.... Meddling in my moms past love life.

Well we got to talking about relationships last night and we pushed and started to meddle in our mom's past love life. Our father died and he's the only one she as really ever spoken to us about.

You know how mothers can tell when a child is holding back something? Not telling all? Well surprise surprise...A child can sense the same of a parent. We had often spoken about this among us siblings as we knew our father hurt her and she did not have the best of life with him.

So we asked for details on someone she loved before our father came on the scene. Turns out to be some love story that didnt get started before it ended but she still remembers him and has been wondering about him for some time. I'll share some snipets of the story with you.

She was between 16 and 19yrs old at the time they met and dated. She was staying at the home of a lady for whom she was working at the time. The guy used to run errands for the lady every once in a while and thats how they met. They obviously made quite a couple as they received many compliments wherever they went and a few friends even guys told her make sure she did not break up with him as he was such a nice guy.

She had told him of plans she had for her life and had encouraged him to join the army. Apparently he took her advice as she later learnt that he had moved on to become a major. They broke up of her own negligence and she even says there was a time when my father was causing her to hurt that she asked God to just let her see this man even once, even if they did not get to talk.

Turns out God answered her prayer just as she asked. She took a bus one day and something about the driver struck her. She looked at him after she was seated as she heard him tell the conductor to make sure the lady was seated (referring to her when she entered). When it was time for her to get off she tried to have a good look at him and he was staring back at her.

He had recognised her from the moment he saw her but it took a while for her to recognise him. She stood there on the pavemnet staring at him and he at her as he drove away. She saw him again once after that but has never been able to talk to him. She kept on about how handsome he was and how that was one thing that was so admirable about him when they were dating plus his mannerism. People were drawn to him because of his looks and manners.

You know last year while she was in Canada she had coyly asked one of our friends to look up a certain man by name who lived in a certain area and used to be a soldier. She couldnt remember his surname then or now. She had not told us of this search but we somehow heard of it. Well what do you know, she was searching for her long last love all under pretense of searching for a friend who just happened to pop up in a dream. I told her last night to can that bit.

We intend to do what we can to locate this gentleman should he still be alive. I think its a nice love story. We just ought to be careful not to step on any toes and we'll be careful to check out the likelyhood of them meeting again causinng trouble for anyone. If all is well then so be it.

Our father was a dear man but two nice people coming together and forming a union that was not meant to be and having to just live to make the best of it is just so unappealing to me. We knew she was not happy and told her so. Hell I wouldnt be happy and would have been out that door with my kids had it been me. I refuse to coverup for the sake of anything. If it hurts it hurts and I'll say ouch or scream and move away from the source of the hurt.

We'll take it from here and see what happens. Afterall we all do wonder about someone we maybe had crush on etc...dont we. I would like to find out about this man who stole our moms heart when she was young but that she was just not prepared to hold on to.

Now to make this a discussion let me ask you:

What would you do in such a case?

Have you ever gone in search of a long last love or someone you just couldnt get out of your mind?

Have you ever sat down and have a heart to heart with your mom, dad, or kids about your past love life any reservations you might have had?