Spouse's best friend

I personally would be very uncomfortable with it. I am not a trusting person, as I've been with a cheater. He always had a lot of female friends, and very few male friends, and later I found out these female friends were actually girls he was cheating on me with.
My husband, I've never been able to trus someone more, but I still worry sometimes. He doesn't have any female friends, he really has no male friends anymore either, except for the ones he works with. I wouldn't trust him having female friends.
But that's just me.

I really do not know how I would feel about this.
While it always seems okay for a man to have a best friend who is female.
Everyone looks down on a woman whose best friend is male.
I think I would maybe get upset, not knowing if they were really only friends.
My mind would be working overtime I think.

It's true, women do like to talk... and I know I wouldn't like it if my Fiance's best friend was a girl. Luckily, he is not. He's actual a cousin of some relation to me, so I don't mind them being friends at all.... I would be completely jealous of he was a girl though, and I know i'd be worried about what might be said.

For a long time, my husband's best friend was his ex-wife. They were married for over seventeen years and practically grew up together. To be honest, I didn't mind the friendship the least, and I considered her a friend. The divorce was amicable because of certain irreconciliable differences, but they remain in contact for some time.

Lately, after a few strong disagreements between, they decided to totally cut off communication. I'm actually bothered by that. I would not want to lose a long time friendship like that.

Maybe I'm just not the jealous type. All my friends think I'm crazy to tolerate such, but I don't see their point. So for me, I have no issue with it..but then, that is me..

I'd be upset because I am supposed to be my spouse's best friend. Well, not just supposed to be, as in fact I am. But you know what I mean. Nopers, that would not be acceptable. We rather prefer to hang out with other couples, although that sometimes gets messed up if someone divorces, or dies. I think due to the nature of the kinds of jobs we have both had, both of us tend to have had more male friends and coworkers, but he has always been my best friend and me his.

WEll, I understand that people in most of this society would frown on it. But as a woman that has mostly guy friends and is married i can actually speak from experiance. It can cause alot of drama between a spouse and even roomates and friends. Sometimes I get accused of cheating becuase i had to many to drink and got mad and went to a near by friends house and pass out. If it was at a girls house it be fine. Basically alot of it has to do with trust. Do you trust that your husband wont cheat on you? Would he turn and look the other way? Would he be able to set healthy boundires and maintain a friendship no matter what? To me if you dont have trust you dont have a relationship. Everyone needs a best friend And in my opinion the best friend is ushually someone of the oppisite gender and can actually help a relationship out, seeing the others gender's point of view!

no absolutely no, as it takes just a bit more
bestfriending between a man and a woman to be
something that destroys a marriage.I was very
uncomfortable with my husband and a so called
best friend who was twenty years my junior
and much prettier and so on than I was. also
she was looking for more than just a friend.
When I at last threatened to divorce him my
husband began to realize that his school buddy'
was indeed looking to break up our marriage]
and hook my husband. She had no interest in
being a friend at alland when she found out
my husband did not have a lot of
money she disappeared at once.

Hello SViswan,

My wife has friends from opposite gender, mostly from her medical college and her parents' friends' children, and I don't mind it. I have even befriended some of them. I don't think any of them can be described as her best friend, though. She has a very few 'best' friends besides me but all of them are females, again mostly from her college. So, given that she already has friends from opposite gender with whom I don't have a problem, I like to believe that I'll be OK if any of them would become her best friend.

I think my reason to think that way mainly has to do with the unwavering trust that I have in my partner. I can't believe or even think for a second that she even has the ability of cheating on me, given her love for me and the values she hold dear. She would never, that's what I know for sure about her. So, in this particular sense, it wouldn't be a bothersome thing to know.

well i will tell you this much it didnt work for me, i had a long tme boyfriend who's bestfriend was a girl and everytime him and i argued she wanted to give me advice on how to be a good girlfriend to him "what the devil was wrong with htis girl" i used to throw her out, and she would go running to him and when i tried to talk to him about it his words were im jealous or its nothing, it was like she tried her best for him to be happy, that women was in our relationship and i gave him my best,well in the end i found out that she was setting him up on blind thats how i finaly got tired of both of them and ended, i would not go thier again

Of course I would mind most defintely but I thank God my spouse does not have any other best friend other than me. All I can quote is this " I am my beloved and my beloved is mine"