Getting Over an Ex before moving on..

Truly? I have always thought women/girls have a harder time to move on since we're what you call 'emotional' beings and we're the ones who wait for guys to come over rather than us approaching guys.

Oh well, I guess regardless how science or studies show, there really are things in life where it doesn't really matter if you're a guy or a girl.

Anyhow, how long have you been separated and could you say you're not yet over the person?

Thanks for the response, it opened my eyes to the fact that like women, men are also soft in the inside.

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well.. yeah.. we guys are pretty emotional too. its just that most of us just wanna show it to others because of lousy machismo.. some guys feel it makes them less of a man when they show weakness. you know.. typical boys stuff.. hehe..
anyway, since you asked, we've been apart a month short to become a decade long. c',)
its been almost 10 years and i'm not really sure if i've moved on but i'm pretty good at keeping my emotions down. we see each other from time to time, usually with common friends, although sometimes we go out alone.. nothing intimate though.. c",)

Oh, that's tough 'coz you guys still meet.. hmm.. do you think there's a chance for things to go the way they were?

well.. honestly i'm no longer expecting for things to get back the way they were. i bet she feels the same. i'm just glad and pretty much content with what we are now. like i said, we're still very close to each other. but less intimacy in the relationship. c",)

Hmm.. are you saying that people who find 'love' faster haven't really given it all in the relationship? I'd sure hoped not.

I think for people who need another person in their lives to get over the ex may have already fallen out of love before they got separated. Or maybe, you're right, they haven't gotten too involved in the relationship, that's why it's easy for them to find another.

I do hope someone who got over their ex by having another partner could defend their stand. hehe..

Thank you for your honesty. By the way, how long have you been trying to 'move on'?

14 months and looks like i have a long way to go....life sucks at times

Oh yeah.. tell me about it.. whew..

tell me bout u too..how long

hmmm....6years hahahahahaha and until now I'm not yet 'completely' over.

I guess life is just full of surprises, we don't really know what's going to happen but sad or happy, we must live it.

Good to know you finally found the right one after the wrong ones..

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Oh, it's good that you landed to the right 'rebound' guy..

I guess sometimes we do need these guys for help. Does your husband know he's the 'rebound guy'?

That is certainly odd~ being the bestfriend after the break up. Don't their new love get jealous?

I have always been somewhat like that, but I usually initiate the 'change' when the break-up begins. I just can't forget the memories by allowing myself to be close to the person.

But, I would still be a friend, but not a very close one.

Their new love never gets jealous because there's nothing to be jealous of... but it's a really complicated situation wherein there are reasons beyond reasons...

Oh that's really sad. I don't really know the feeling because I never been there (and knock on woods I'd experience that) but if losing someone you love is already hard how much more if it's death.

Anyhow, it's really tough for people to move on with that type of situation, there's really no one who could replace the one you loved but I guess the best thing we should do about it is by not looking. Just let it flow and try the best that we can not to compare that someone who'd come with the past. It's good to always think that he's happier where he is at and he wants you to be happy too.

Yeah, I guess kids and young adults are so much detached with emotions right now that it's ok for them to change partners anytime. That's their generation, we can't do anything about it. Let's just hope that our kids wouldn't belong to that mentality.

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