Do You Have a Voice of Reason? Well Do You?  |
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 Over the past few weeks a lot of people have teased me about the voices in my head. My voices may object to that, but frankly, I don't. It's actually made me pay attention to what goes on up there, in a way that I had lost touch with over the past year, with all the things I've had to deal with OUTSIDE my head.
Everyone has at least two voices in their head. The voice of thought process and the voice of conscience; i.e. the voice of reason - the voice that makes you stop and question yourself - the voice that presents the choice between right and wrong.
All people do not grow up equal. Different stressors can be found from person to person and be reflected in the their reactions to things. But one thing we ALL have in common is the ability to hurt and be hurt, emotionally. This is why we have a voice of reason. As intelligent thinking adults, we have the capacity to reason out a problem, the answer to a question, the motive behind a response we give. It is what puts us at the top of the food chain.
Lately, here, within this community, the exercise of that power to reason before reacting, has been so absent that I really have to wonder if in today's me, me, me society the human race is actually losing the one thing that makes them superior to other organisms on the earth - not superior to other human beings, but to other life forms.
As the world shrinks with the progress of technology, our ability to reach out and touch others literally 'worlds' away becomes easier and more 'instant'.
I don't want to come to believe that there are more people who ignore their inner voice, than those that listen. My faith in human nature is shaky enough thanks.
So I am appealing to all members here to get off your damn high horses and start listening to that voice in your head and begin to show your real humanity and less of your inhumanity.
Mylot is a microcosim of the increasingly integrated world we are living in. So let's make it an example of the GOODNESS of man rather than the opposite.
Do you have a voice of reason? Do you use it? WELL START!
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1.  dumblnddzzy (7691) | 2 months ago |  Spark,very well put!!I do hope some people here take heed & listen to your words of wisdom, as it can only increase their awareness of themselves, & make themselves a better person for it!! Yes I do have a voice of reason, and I listen to it all the time, I couldn't imagine going thru life not doing so...Great post Spark!1Lori
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I've come to know your voice of reason pretty well Lori. I am in awe of it. You are one of my heros. Rock on sweets! | |
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| dumblnddzzy (7691) | 2 months ago | Spark what a very sweet thing to say...thank you!!!Lori | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Hey - the truth fits, so wear it with pride Lori! Hugs | |
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2.  cynicalandoutspoken (1894) | 2 months ago |  I have a voice of reason. The classic little cherub that comes to sit upon my shoulder and whisper in my ear that something I am thinking about doing or saying may not be...oh ok, isn't the right thing to do or say. And I nod and say, "you're right..." but before I ever get the rest of that thought finished*POOF* out pops the little devil on my other shoulder and damn near takes out my carotid artery with his pitch fork.
He begins asking questions of "why" and "who is it going to hurt" and "why shouldn't I say/do what I want when I am an adult and my own free thinking person and not a sheep just blindly following the Shepard right over the cliff?"
Then the devil and the angel get into their own little argument and while they are distracting each other I more than likely go off and do whatever I was going to do in the first place.
So as you can see I do have a voice of reason...more than one as a matter of fact. But I have a feeling if I spent my time giving in to that chubby little cherub I wouldn't be the person I am today.
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | A person at war with their voices and actively involved in listening to or arguing with them both, is a personality with character in the making and a force of nature. You are you and that will probably never change. As long as you keep listening and arguing though, you are just fine and as you get older your cherub will make more and more sense and you will argue with it less and less! Trust me! lol | |
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| cynicalandoutspoken (1894) | 2 months ago | Always pulling that age card on me. Damn...next thing you know it is going to be because I'm white, right? Oh wait, I'm not. Nevermind. Now where did I put my cheese grater? | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I love the age card! LOL Problem with that for you is --------- YOU REALLY WILL THANK ME WHEN YOU'RE OLDER!!!!!! ROFL>..........LOL | |
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| novataylor (1500) | 2 months ago |  Roflmao! Cyn, you're white???? Shite, where's MY cheese grater?? Chubby little cherub, geez..........
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I've seen you're voice of reason in action Loud - so no worries for you! LOL | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Do we have the same one Loud? My nine seems to be a permanent fixture too! lol | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Coming out of the closet...............Female! | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | We get them together and photgraph the first thing that pops up?
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4.  tessah (1456) | 2 months ago |  i nitpick and analyze myself, possible actions, and thoughts so obsesssively that it drives pretty much everyone around me crazy. im told i over-think things.. dissect things too harshly.. obsess. and theyre right.. i do. there are methods to my madness tho.. when taking the time to not act impulsively.. to think out every action and the possble counteractions of said action in every feasible scenerio in every direction possible..how these possible outcomes would affect others involved, and anticipate what their reactions might possibly be to it.. there are very few times where im left surprised saying "if id known that wouldve happened.. i wouldntve done it" im left with less regrets over my choices and decisions. not to say that everything i ever do turns out exactly the way id hoped it would..of course not.. BUT i was fully aware ahead of time which way the pendulum could possibly swing and what the consequences of that could maybe be. i acceped this possible before making the decision.. and chose to make it the way i did.. so im more prepared for possible outcomes. do i have a voice of reason? it screams loudly everyday..
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Tessah! I am so glad to see you. I've listened very hard to your voice of reason and when I grow up I want mine to be as finely honed as yours. You astound me, and I am so thankful you have let me listen to your voice(s). | |
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| tessah (1456) | 2 months ago | quite honesty.. considerng some of our conversations, and the advice and i admit, somewhat scathing comments that i have made.. i wasnt expecting gratitudes and i certainly wasnt expecting compliments. you surprise me.. and quite happily so, as my words have never come from anywhere other than deep caring and concern for you, and it pleases me more than you know that you took them in the spirit they were spoken. ..;squishes;.. | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I did try to argue with you - you being you over-rode me with such logic and insight that I had to stop and listen. Later, (especially after our phone convo) I had time to think about what you said. And even though I probably forget a lot of it, what stuck with me was the sheer depth of your thought process that I'm still in awe. There have actually been times lately Tessa when I'm thinking - whoa, tess and you talked about this, and she's right - you're hiding again, you have to face this, stop compartmentalizing" It made a difference. So yes, still in awe and always will be probably. | |
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| tessah (1456) | 2 months ago | im left without a response to such a compliment. i thank you.. and im very happy to have made a difference.. and honored you let me in to even be able to do so. | |
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| novataylor (1500) | 2 months ago | My heart is so soothed, reading this, you two. XXX | |
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| tessah (1456) | 2 months ago | group hug!!
..;squish squish squish!;.. | |
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| novataylor (1500) | 2 months ago | Oh yeah, group hug for sure. Squish, squish, squish!!! | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Hey..............getting squashed here!
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5.  mrsfrodotata (1399) | 2 months ago |  Oh no I think my voice of reason has left me. What do I do. HHHEEEELLLPPPPP MMMEEEEEEE. Oh voice where are you?
No really I think I only use that little voice when I find it necessary. I am constantly arguing with myself. Like when the kids are fighting over a cup of milk and then they drop it on the floor. I have to tell myself "calm down they are just kids" But then I say "but they shouldn't be arguing" but then I say "But they are kids" Then I say "but I told them to stop arguing" then I say " but they are just kids tell them to get a towel and clean it up." LOL Man oh Man that voice irritates me sometimes.
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Yeah, but while you're arguing with it, you're not hitting kids in frustration, so that's a good thing. Listen to it, argue with it, but never ignore it. It is what makes you a great person you know! Hugs mrs. | |
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| mrsfrodotata (1399) | 2 months ago | Good point Spark. Thanks. Hugs to you too. | |
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| 6. Anhedonia (1781) | 2 months ago |  Yes but I wonder if Mercury is in retrograde. LOL. I really know nothing about such things. I had a neighbor that used to say that or something like it every time people were at gross odds with each other.
Good post, we will try.
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I see evidence of yours all the time Anhedonia. You inspire me. | |
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| 7. cortjo73 (1817) | 2 months ago |  I do have a voice of reason! It is really big. Part of it is sprinkled with guilt so, that keeps me from making the bad choice. The voice of reason in my head sounds like one of two, and sometimes both, my Mom and my Hubby. If I am about to make a mistake, one or both or their voices stops me by asking me, "what would Mom/Hubby think about this". I am like my labrador retriever dog. I am a people pleaser. I like it when people praise me and make my tail wag. I like the "atta girl" and the "good job" that I get when I do it the right way instead of the wrong way. I hate to be yelled at and I hate to disappoint others. So, I have always been a "good girl". I was my parent's pride and joy. I even talked to my mom about it a couple months ago. We were discussing what stress us kids (me and my 2 siblings) put on my parents and my Mom brought up the 2 things I ever did that really drove her batty and, I pointed out that, other than those 2 things, I was a good kid. And, she told me that she thought that one of those 2 things were likely my brother's influence. She was right but, I wouldn't have fessed up to that at the time.
So, she had to agree that I was a good kid. I stayed out of trouble. No drugs, no alcohol and not a single time sneaking out of the house or skipping school. I got good grades, I didn't talk back to my parents. I just stayed out of trouble.
So, I have carried that other voice in my head all of my life and I keep behaving in a way that will not disappoint or embarrass anyone I love and care about.
In fact, that voice is so loud and strong that, I should give it a name. How about Mubby for Mom/Hubby? Or Homby for Hubby/Mom? LOL!
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I like Mubby! LOL
I'm glad I got to know you when you were an adult cortjo. I would have had to slap you upside the head when you were a kid to get you to just be a kid and to hell with the voices! LOL I've always listened to mine, but there were times when I sent the reason on vacation just so I could lighten up and have some REAL fun. I haven't done that since I turned 21 though.*sigh* | |
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| cortjo73 (1817) | 2 months ago | LOL! I like that one too but, I think I like Homby too! LOL! I guess I'll have to toss a coin or just sleep on it for a while! LOL!
Yea! I wouldn't have been my friend back then either. In fact, my hubby and I have had that conversation and we both agree that we wouldn't have liked one another back when were were younger. We were complete opposites.
I did finally loosen up once I got to college. LOL! I was still, a good girl at the core. But, I let myself have fun and enjoy my freedom.
I think I did do myself a disservice by being so serious when I was a kid. I should have let myself out of my own cage now and then. I think it didn't help me that I had been so caged by the time I got to college because, once I got that taste of freedom, I lost focus for a while.
I'm glad we are friends now! My friendships now seem to last longer than they did back then! LOL! | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | That's the danger of being too restrained as a kid - once you get a taste of freedom, you lose focus as you said. But on the other hand, your voice of reason was well developed and easier to bring back to the fore than most people would be able to do.
I agree with your hubby - you are so much more fun now, because I think, you've found a balance and I'll bet hubs has a lot to do with that. Kudos. | |
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| cortjo73 (1817) | 2 months ago | You couldn't be more right! My hubby has had a lot to do with who I have become in the 11 + years that we have known one another. I was still a little wild when we met, and, continued to have to tame that wild back down for the first 3 or so years after we met. And now, I am still a goof ball and know when and how to have fun. I still have that serious bone in me but, I have dropped my guard a lot without feeling like I am missing out on something.
And, he has made me less sensitive too. It wouldn't take much to hurt my feeling back in the day when we first met! He can be quite sarcastic and, I took a lot of stuff too seriously! But, now I know the difference. He has made me a better person!
You read people pretty well! | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | You are a lucky woman with your hubs. I'm so glad to hear that.
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| cortjo73 (1817) | 2 months ago | I am a lucky woman! It took some frogs before I found him but, it happened! LOL! | |
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| 8. oneandonemakesix (23425) | 2 months ago |  Sure its that little voice that I tend to ignore when I go off on someone, most o fthe time I listen to it and I listen to reasoning, but there are times, and you've seen just the tip of it on here and my anger, that I will totally iggie that voice of reasoning and unleash my temper.
The last 2 people that I told off with a vegenance was my former landlord, and the people that raised me, adn I mean I held nothing back.......every other word was a cuss word, and I don't care what they think of me.
I usually keep my anger and temper in check however I have to say right now that there are times when it builds and it has been building toward a few members on here in the past few months and if something doesn't give I'm gonna explode.
Mooch
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| zukepr (9818) | 2 months ago |  Its not that you are ignoring the voices
you are just listening to a diferent one than you normally would LOL
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I hear you loud and clear Mooch. As you've seen - I've rather gone off too these last few days on the lot and I don't regret a thing. I wasn't abusive, neither were you, so have at it. Everyone's NEEDS to vent their anger when it is totally justified, and who is anyone else to question that? These past few days actually Mooch are what prompted these little thoughts of mine in this discussion. I have drawn a certain person's attention (my rating is down way too far today to make sense) and I'm hoping this discussion will activate some voices! LOL So hang in there and try to think of this as "Theatre of the Mind" and enjoy the show. You are not alone with you know who anymore Mooch. | |
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| oneandonemakesix (23425) | 2 months ago | you hope the voices will make a sound, but they won't, they will ignore you and most likely stalk and hit the neg key.
by some of the comments that I have seen I wonder if I am the one causing people to loose star ratings just by them associating with me....
I have the habit of always thinking worse case scenarios and its one of my downfalls.....
so I have to try to listen to that extra voice of reason.
Mooch | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | Let them neg. When that doesn't produce the results they want, they'll start talking. They won't be able to help themselves! | |
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | And sh*t, Mooch, don't put yourself down and worry about your friends losing out associating with you! Heck, I'm the captain of that ship! LOL | |
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| 9. IlsaVunes (584) | 2 months ago |  Yes I do listen. I have sat here at this computer written things only to hit the back button and it all disappears. It's a way of letting the idiot in my head say it's piece and go away. It is a way of dealing with any negative thoughts I may have. You can't ingore the good or the bad, but you don't have to make people miserable with your bad thoughts. I try not to get involved with controversy because I have my own demons to deal with. Life is too short to be negative or unhappy all the time. It saps our life force. Positivity and negativity both have a way of spreading. I choose to spread the positive, and keep the negative buried away as it should be. Though I am not perfect and slip now and then, I am human and do make mistakes.
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| sparkofinsanity (1421) | 2 months ago | I knew that as soon as I met you Ilsa - "here's somebody who is AWARE and willing and open...." No one's perfect (geez, have you read any of MY posts? LOL) but then we wouldn't |
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