to love or being loved

dear
i find it very difficult to verify love among human beings as they are really scared what is love.Love after 30 is a sin??as many of people sees it as a great mistake.

I started to my wife after i crossed 35. is it a great problem,what;s the main attitude of many girl is they question our trust and passion towards them whether we are real to them, i am really astonished.

I don't know whether separarte minda re there for gentleman and ladies .plz explain, replies neede mainly fr om ladies