Do we have a right to hate our own mother?????

Well,
Hate is a very strong hurtful word, so it is ok to dislike your parent's.
You do not have to keep sending your mother money, ask her what she needs it for or ask her to give you the address of the bill she needs to pay and tell her you will send the money from your home.
Both of my parent's have passed away now and I miss them and yes we have had our differences and yes I have shouted several times I HATE YOU, however in my heart I knew it was not true.
So just forgive and do not let her take advanatage of you anymore, learn how to say NO

You don't have to hate your mother but you can hate her deceitfulness, and trickery, and no you do not have to put up with it, it is her problem she is the deceitful one and you do not have to play into her illness. If you keep bailing her out all you are doing is telling her that what she is doing is OK with you and you know it isn't. tell her NO more and to get help with her problem, that is being a good child, not enabling her to cheat on you.

I have experience that before but I never hate my mom. I don't have any right to feel that to her. I know that I can be angry to her but that's the only thing I can feel towards her but I still didn't allow it to happen. I owe my life to her so I was just returning the favor to her.

I have to disagree with the other folks. I hate my mother, and I have very good reasons to. If she is just bringing you down too much, you just have to cut ties with her. Don't give in to what it is that she wants. If you want to talk more about this I will add you as a friend and we can talk(don't want to air that whole situation here).

Were not perfect were just human like our mothers... they also get mad feeling bad and they commit mistakes.... No matter we feel bad and how many times they say sorry there will always be there... if not with our mother we wont be here in this world... we still owe our life to our mother's.. Patience is a virtue! getting mad is natural feelings emotions... if we can forgive our friends this is our one and only mother in this world! I can't blame you to feel bad but she is still your mom! Have a nice day!

What is she doing with the money? Is she using it to buy unnecessary stuffs?

In a way I am in doubt with my answer. When I read the title, I am sure that I would say I will not hate my mother but when I read the whole story, its quite confusing. I mean why would a mother lie to her children about what she gonna do with the money? I have never met such a mother like that. I am glad my mother is not like that.

To answer your question, of course I would be angry with her. I must be frank with her and tell her that she should not do this to me. I mean with due respect, I know we have responsibilities toward her but all we can do is give her what we have nothing more. As long as I can continue giving her money I will but if she uses it extravagantly I think I would rather buy her foods and stuffs that are more needed.

As for having the right to hate her, only you can decide that, because your feelings ARE your feelings. I know i wouldn't trust her (i have trust issues)but i don't think i would hate her. Having said that let me say this I HATE BEING PLAYED FOR A SUCKER and in general people only get one chance to do it!

I suppose you "have the right" to feel any feeling you want. But hate won't help you at all. Actually, what works best is for you to detach emotionally from people who hurt you over and over, even if it is a family member.

Does it make sense to trust someone who is untrustworthy? No matter who it is, you have to use some common sense about that.

You can still love someone without getting tangled up in their crazy behavior. The secret is to learn to take care of yourself emotionally and let go of their behaviors. Expect them to be who they have shown themselves to be by their past behaviors. And let go of expecting them to change.

Be sane.

I will not hate her,because she have born me,however, I should tell her doing has hurt my love to her, If I find again, I will never give money to her again!

I can understand where you're coming from, but in a different situation. Me and my faimly stay here with her. I have offered to pay the cable, phone and feed her cat and dog. we also buy her thing from the market. She offered to buy me a car to make up for the lost of my job. I use to make 30,000 a year, it may not be much to some, but it helped me and husband. In the long run, she pays for my car 379.00 at month. We now pay 150.00 for rent. 80.00 for cable and 25 for internet which is ours. If I need to go out with my husband for the day, she get upset, I dont' have any help from my brother or sister. My sister will help out, BUT only during the weekend. So if want to leave during the week, we can't because they never have time off, but yet they can both go on vacation anytime during the year. So, I'm stuck. she dont' ask me for money, and I dare not ask her for any. I get that feeling, where I do hate her, and I also feel like I'm just here introduing on her. It's not my house, there is nothin here that belong to me. God forbid I try and change thing around here, because she think I'm throwing her out. But yet her son, was able to sell all her furnture. I sometimes think that we have that right to dislike them. We were brought up not to hate our parents. And sometimes we don't feel that way. Maybe this is another MYLOT issues. but I feel that hate does come up. It just depend on how your parent are with you, how they raised you, how they have treated you. Many people will say, that they hate their parents. Sometimes i feel that way.I hope this help you some.