How many friends do you REALLY have?

I have 3 friends really. I have mostly accquaintances from work and school. But real friends there are only 3. One of them I see a good amount of the time because he is in my area. But the other 2 I only see once in awhile. One of them lives 5 hours away and the other lives about an hour way but she is really busy with her kids and stuff. I miss those two crazy girls. Sheesh!!!

Hi friend,
i have so many friends in my college. So that unfortunately i forget to earn good friends. But i have no enemies in my college. At the final year i got my best friend. Now only he knows everything about me. I am glad about that.
Thanks.

Hi friend,
i have so many friends in my college. So that unfortunately i forget to earn good friends. But i have no enemies in my college. At the final year i got my best friend. Now only he knows everything about me. I am glad about that.
Thanks.

That's a good question. How many friends do we need? I am easily able to separate my on and off line friends. For practical help or a place to stay in a hurry, I can probably count on about three people. For a chat or lunch, probably about six, for unconditional love, two - one I'm married to, the other I'm the father of. When I was ill last year I found out that many people that I thought of as "friends" were in fact very selective about the terms on which our friendship was based. Lots of "poor you" not much "lets talk, come for supper". Actually, the "best" friend was my wife's oldest friend who lives about 100 miles away. She was just there for me. Then I discovered myLot! My on-line friends are very different. I have about 10 who I can rant to. Of those, about four are people that I could call up day or night for a shoulder to cry on. Hope that helps. XX

meh i can count my "friends" on one hand.. those people i can go to for anything at anytime.. no secrets. and not a one of them live anywhere near me with the exception of my husband mal. theres my boyfriend, the Sadist.. weve been friends goin on 8 years.. intimately nearly 3. but he lives far away.. a good couple thousand miles ..;sigh;.. theres my best friend Death.. long story about her name, LOL she used to live near here, and id see her a bit.. talk to her near daily.. now shes moved away to the other side of the country, so theres no more face to face drop-ins for coffee or a spontaneous shopping trip. Pinoak.. yet another who lives hundreds of miles away. we speak every week.. sometimes more, stay caught up with each other. trust him with my life, and hed be on a plane in a heartbeat if it was necessary. as it is, he and his wife make a yearly trek here over their vacation time every year and spend a few days. and my adopted soulbrother Ryan.. slightly closer than the rest, but still too much of a distance to see each other more than once a year when he also migrates in with the other stream of summertime houseguests. those few are the diehard tried and tested trust with yer very breath die for if needed "FRIENDS", theres a scattered few others that i trust, am close with.. but not like the previously mentioned.. a couple aquaintences.. parents of friends of my kid that i see regularly for school events or kids birthday parties, but the conversations never go any deeper than the weather and more upcoming events. so really the same situation you have there.. i have ONE closeby, and im married to em. so i rely on the phone and the internet to stay in touch with and interact with everyone else between visits and face to face encounters.

I know how you feel, and I am sorry that you feel so lonely, because I know it's not nice to feel like that at all. I have some friends spread around the world. I live in Spain and some of my friends are in Australia, England, New York, etc.

But I'm lucky enough because more than half of them are in the same city as me, which is cool.

But I also think that quality is better than quantity, and one of my best friends lives in Ireland, so I only get to see him a few weeks a year, and it's still great.

To that you must add all the people i've met online of course.

I would say that I have like 8 true friends plus 2 or 3 I met here. Those i can consider close friends. Obviously among them there are always some you get on with better, but that doesn't mean that they're better or worse friends, just a matter of personalities.

Karen, I've been this very way, all of my life. My best friend is my wife. I have aquaintances but that's it.
There are no friends. It's lonely alright.

Hmmmm...friends I really have....let's see...

1) Jenny. I've known Jenny since I was about 16 years old, so it'll be about 20 years that we've known each other. I can tell her about anything.

2) Ed. I've known him just over 9 years (we worked together before getting involved) and I feel as though he doesn't judge me. I can tell him nearly anything too, although I'm still not comfortable telling him EVERY little thing.

3) Jenn. I've known her since we met on our kids first day of kindergarten (and they're finishing the 9th grade!). She's seen me change the most over the years. We can go back and forth, we don't see one another every day, but we keep in contact via email.

4) Harry. I've known of him longer (20+ years) but we didn't really start talking until last fall. He helps with nearly anything I ask him too (here around the house), is helpful but insists that I should break up with Ed and go out with him, since he never sees Ed over...but he doesn't drive and I'd have to drive him home. So how would that work?

I have lots of acquaintances, but these people have been constants in my life for a while now.

In Aug it will be 15 years since I arrived here and in all that time I have only been able to have 1 friend and she was "inherited", so I did not find her. We meet twice a year for a two hour breakfast and then I don't see her again for another six months. In spring and summer it is almost painful to see people sitting outside with a relative or friend talking and I wish I could do the same. My friends and family are spread all over the world, so I am only able to see them every now and then and not as often as I would like. I try to be my own friend and I find that my computer has helped me a lot! Not only to communicate with people, but to entertain and express myself. So to answer your question, I have one friend, but she is dossified, 2 hours every six months. Maybe I had to leave too many people when I moved countries and now I am paying the price.

I have only one true friend. I have many aquaintences and friends but one person that I would trust my life with. And I am ok with this. We have been friends for about 22 years now and we have alot in common. We only live about 10 minute drive apart and do not get to spend as much time together as we have in the past but that is ok. We both have out own families and lives as well but if she ever needed me and I ever needed her we are there for eachother. I do have other people that I do feel close with and spend time with when I can but when the question come up as how many friends do I have only one person comes to my mind. It does not make me really feel lonely or anything because I would rather have one true friend then a dozen or more people that I could not trust or count on.