The Other Women!!!

Boy, you've really gotten yourself into a situation. First of all, you got married way too early. You can't know a person in only five months and, secondly, you ignored red flag number one in the second month of knowing him. Now you're faced with red flag number two. Your husband is playing games that he should not play and, no, you shouldn't let it go. Do you really want a husband who cheats on you and who could bring home who knows what diseases from playing around with someone who played around with someone...and on and on? Do you think he'll change? From what I already see one or both of you are impulsive and probably not ready to settle down.

let it go again? you should have kicked his butt to the curb the first time. i say cut your losses and move on. he is obviously a dog. don't let him keep lying to you and cheating on you. stand up for yourself. don't let anyone disrespect you.

Absolutely not!!! You should not just let this go!!! I agree with the first poster, you did get married way too soon, but with that already being done and said, you need to know that you are worth way more than what this man is willing to offer you. Do you believe that you deserve to be cheated on, disrespected, and lied to? Do you believe that you deserve to have an STD because your husband is out there cheating on you and being with other women??? Do you think that your husband really and truely loves you like a husband is to love their wife??? I would have to guess that the answer to those questions would be no, therefore you need to get out of this relationship ASAP. I wouldnt even wait for an explanation, what difference is his reasoning going to make? Is it going to change the fact that you two married waayy too early and didn't get to fully know one another? Is it going to change the fact that he has cheated on you basically from the start of your marriage?? I wouldn't even waste my time on letting him explain, get out of it. Save yourself from getting hurt more and from possibly getting a disease and get away from him. No woman/man deserves to go through this. I wish you the best of luck. Please keep us informed on your decision. I will be praying for you.

I wouldn't say go easy on him or forget it. Take it from me, marriage is hard work. Five years on a normal job is easier than one year of marriage. Let me first say that women are deciteful and want what they can't have. Women can take things they heard and things they have seen and make them into what they want. Believe what your husband says and make it work. No one's relationship is perfect. There is no time limit on love. Love is something that comes with no discrimination. If you love your husband and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then work towards that by any means necessary. People these days give up too soon. Imagine if everyone gave up so easily. America wouldn't be free and I would still be a slave.

PS...because the divorce rate in North Carolina is so high, you have to wait a year for a divorce to be final after filing it.

Honey, you know that you love this boy, and regardless of what anyone says, that will not change. You also know that he loves you and has tried to be honest with you about his past, though he often forgets some things... You need to confront him with the emails and ask him to tell you the truth. You have to be calm when you do this though, or he will lock up and not tell you the whole truth.
Just be matter of fact about it and show him what she said, and remember that jealousy will make a person say and do some strange things!

You need to put your foot down and try to stop this before it gets worse.Dont let anoither woman even enter into the mix of you and you man.If this girl sees that she can get you upset she will keep at it until she destroys your marriage.Is that what you want?Dont let her destroy your marriage and your home.Put her in her place now!

hi, sorry to hear about this, but i could never let go of something like this. You did say you got married, right? so how does he think he can ask another women to move in..thats weird. Why would you take it dear.please dont. Today if you let go of small things they would get bigger and one day totally out of control I think you should talk to him seriously and find out what is happening.

you should talk to him about these incidents and clearly straighten things out. you should have his respect and honesty. if you let it go again, most likely it would happen again and before you even realize it, things will get out of hand. as early as possible, settle things out and give your husband ultimatum. he should be faithful to you!

You definitely need to talk to him about it. If there are problems between you two now, it needs to be resolved so that they do not get worse as time goes on. He needs to know that you are upset by it and how he handles the situation will be a great way of seeing how he will handle conflicts in the future.

Hello pixie,
I have let things go just like you did and after 14 years of marriage his girlfriend did move in. The day he met her he told her that he was separated which was not true. She moved in all of her things the day she met him. I am now getting divorced for I cannot be in this situation... I still live in the same house with him because I am not working right now because I take care of our 2 children. Please don't let this happen to you!!! Even when we tried to work things out and she moved out for a while he was still seeing her. And she keeps moving right back in here because she says she loves him more than anyone she has ever met in her life. So if you can deal with all of that then I guess just let it go. But you will get hurt in the long run.