How do you handle former friends who delete you?

Yes, good ridence to them, pal! I've been deleted by a few, but surely it was due to some silly reason, like gossip, or somehting I said that someone found offensive. I'm at a point now that unless I really really know the person, I don't accept any new friend requests from people under 500 posts. I jsut don't wanna cloud up the friend list with inactives. I think that once folks get to know me and see that I am mulitfaceted human being with a bit of seriousness and a whole lot of snarky, they get the picture and learn to love me. If not, that's perfectly fine too.

Good luck pal!

There will always be misunderstanding were responding to discussion is concern but it is how you can get around putting it back to positiveness. Yesterday I respond to two discussions and was taken the wrong way. After reading to their comments I realized what was the problem and straighten that out. You see whenever I respond to a discussion I always go back to see if there is a response and then clarify any misgiving. We are all from different cultures and have different personalities and this is what makes MYLOT the enjoyable site it is but when differences arises we should always make sure it is out in the open and move on.

I don't believe in deleting friends especially if they are always responding to me. Since joining MYLOT I have only deleted one person and it was because she has never respond to my discussion and when I asked her for guidance here in MYLOT seeing that I was new, she was all negative and telling me to be an adult. So I deleted her. My friend list is full and still most of them don't respond in my discussion and I still move on.

The thing is alot of persons does not know the meaning of friendship. All the best.

I have had some people delete me, and its not big deal, and if I run into a discussion of theirs that I like I respond to it, he, its no big deal,

You know, I think dMoochifferences are good, and it helps us learn about people and others, one thing I've learned here in the year that I've been here is that no matter what the difference is people just want to be accepted for who they are and what they beleive, even if it is the total opposite spectrum of what I believe.

Mooch

As far as someone deleting you from their friends list, I don't see that there is anything to handle. I haven't ever deleted a friend, but I've turned off notice, because the discussion load got so heavy I couldn't handle it during the summertime. People may not have much in common with you and don't enjoy your discussions. So be it! We all have different views and interests. It's really not a bad thing to be deleted.

You still have friends who can join into a lively discussion on whatever you're interested in.:)

To be honest with you I am pretty sure that I may have been deleted off a few lists myself as I see the discussions but I never get the notifications! But to be honest it does not bother me either, I still will answer to the discussions if they interest me enough! No one can get rid of me that easily LOL.

Hi My Star:

I only would delete a friend who hasn't responded to my last 3 discussions. I would check to see if they have responded to other members discussions first.

I would never do it because I didn't agree with them.

I wouldn't worry over it at all you have a lot of friends that love you.

Ivor

HOnestly, for the most part I don't really care. Maybe they thought that we had similar views and learned differently and prefer not to clog their notifications with my discussions, maybe they changed their mind.... I don't really take it personally. I love this place but prefer not to take it too personally or seriously, I find it better this way.
I have formed a few more serious friendships in here, but as a rule I treat this site lightly and do not allow it to affected me negatively.
Every once in a while I go trough my friends list and go trough the discussions they started. If the discussions are the kind of discussions that interest me or that I enjoy I turn the notifications on for that friend. If the person has not been active for more than 5 months, I usually delete her/him. I find the list of friends hard to manage as it is,and as a rule people that haven't logged in for that long probably won't come back. THe rest of the people on my friend's list have the notifier off. It doesn't mean that I won't participate in their discussions. Each day that I am here and I have time, I go to the "discussions my friends started" section and answer them.
Well ... as you say they did give you a topic to start a discussin, that works:)

Well...its not much in that case...becouse i cant really force some one to be my friend....so i will accept it at face that i dont want to be a friendwith him either....

Everlasting, you have the right idea. I gave you a new discussion! I understand nobody here will agree 100% with another human being. So I expect to get negative opinions on my discussions; that's life. I get them on my blog and it doesn't bother me - just those that want to be hateful in their remarks bother me and I'll delete those comments at times, if they are nasty. People can give their opinions in their comments without being hateful to someone. We all have our opinions as we want to give them.

I like the friends idea. Gives me a way of finding some like-minded discussions. If I have watched a person for awhile and get a sense of feel from where they are coming, I ask them to be friends. I like their posts and their opinions. Most all the people have accepted my friends' request. Hopefully they won't delete me.

Hi everlasting.
I understand how you feel,if i was deleted on their list I would feel the same.But hey mylotting has to go on,sure you have true friends who sticks with you with or without response..ngek!It's true,I for one don't expect everybody or even friends to respond to my topics.And hope they do/feel the same way too.Just curious,was i among those..guilty-i checked my list some notifications are still off and i was absent the last week of June,am i one of them?Just asking.
BTW,i have some pending friend request(a month ago),if i may ask is it okay to delete them or just leave it there?Thanks.