who should make the first move?

he was cheating?
well in who should make a move, the BOTH should. They both need to take steps forward in repairing the relationship.

Hai, counselling is the ideal way to sort out problems. In these days of modern trend one forgets about the real ethics of married life. I suggest she, her husband, her husband's lover, that lovers husband should sit in a calm place and counsel the issues. Love before marriage is 90% infatuation. it's a dream. Of late we cannot forget dreams once when it has reached out heart. But life does not stop with that. We should think of reality and think of it deeply, so that the dream will move away from us. Go for a better counselling with good friends so that the need for a family court does not arise. open ur heart and speak. gud luk.

well in case her husband is not taking any moves..coz three yrs in long time to wait for him to forget a girl...
she should talk to him keeping him busy,he should have great time with her..so he starts feeling for his wife..

The husband should take the first move since he is the one responsible in destroying their relationship, not just move but a sincere promise that it will never happen again! PLus the fact that the wife is exerting effort to talk to him is already a great indication that she was totally a good partner! If he needs time and can't decide, I guess it will be better for the wife also not to wait, it means that he just love the other girl more than his family!

well i think it is a long time that she has waited patiently..if he is not talking then she should break the ice and speak to him..bcoz it is not only about them but also a child is involved...they need to communicate otherwise no point going on this way..

well now this is a littlle complicated. jin my opinion i think she should make the first move coz it always begins with you. pliz dont loose your love to pride. i'd rather you lost your pride to love. well then good luck my dear.
pam