Feeling Blue

It really is going to be okay. I have spent some time as a single woman in between relationships and, once I got through the initial adjustment, I really enjoyed being independent. I got to decide everything...watch what I wanted on tv, go where I wanted, or not if I didn't want to go out. Even though the relationship that you have just left was not a good one, you had your normal routine and expectations which have now changed. It takes time to adjust but you will and you won't always be broke either.

If your depression is interfering with your daily life, maybe talk with your doctor, hon.

I'd also suggest spending time with family if you can, or friends... you could also look into activities for the kids, where other small children and their moms might be participating.

You could also do a journal about how you spent your days whlie he was gone -- and give it to him when he gets home.. with pictures and notes for each day.

I know things will work out for you...keep your chin up and take good care...

I am glad for you that you atually had the courage to get up and leave an ugly relationship. Life is too precious too waste. Look who is saying that, me one who has not got courage to go out and live alone and carrying on a sour relationship. I do not know when will I have enough courage and tell him to stop it and go away. My major concern is my two kids and how am I going to support them financially. I have been a housewife all along and now do not know if I will find work at my age anywhere.
Still I am happy that at least you have made a fresh start. Thumbs up to you. I wish you find happiness soon enough.

I'll get better, it is still fairly new, you being single. Time will make things better. What are you doing to occupy your time? If you are not working, maybe try finding a job, that in itself will help you with your debt.
You did not mention children, do you have any?
Take one day at a time.

I'm sorry about your situation. I know that this is a depressing part after leaving a spouse. You should take this time to enjoy being single and finding more about yourself. And by doing this you have more time to focus more on yourself. Try finding a new hobby and stick with it. I just told someone else that playing an instrument helps greatly. You really could use a stress reliever right now. I hope you find true happiness. And if you ever need to let out some steam, I'm here. I'm an awesome listener.

Well hugs to you. Do not feel so sorry for yourself. This will pass. Do not dwell so much on what had happened. try to focus on what you really want. If you think you are lonely, you might fall into the trap of finding someone so soon. Divert your attention. Keep yourself busy with productive things. Read books, see your other friends, go out and have fun. Do not keep to yourself much or you will just feel more lonely. Goodluck.

angleface I am 50, and I have been threw 3 marraiage that did not go well the first one was for 3 yrs and he was very abusive. The next one was for 11 yrs and that one was my fault that it did not work I was young still and decided to party almost everyday and with out him. Then I got with a guy 13 yrs younger did not like that to much and this last one I have been married for 15 yrs. You know the only thing I regret is I never took the time to find myself. I was so scared to be by myself that I jumped from one relationship to another with out giving myself a chance to get to know who I was what I liked and did not. Life has so much to offer but we dont take the time it does not take money to find out what happiness is. Dont get to lonely and make a mistake take your time and find out what you want, when we go to a resturant we have never been to we take the time to look at the menu, do the same with your life at the end you are the one who is going to eat what you order. You are young and pretty dont worry you will find your perfect couple. I DID

It will be ok. Been there, and done it. I was married for 20 years when my ex walked out, without any warning at all. It was extremely hard at first. I was depressed, didn't know what to do with myself, or even what direction to go in. But, as each week passed, then months it got easier. We've been apart 10 years this summer and I don't regret it at all. One thing that helped me was a book someone told me about called "Rebuilding when your relationship ends." That book helped me thru alot of tough times and decisions afterwards. I hope things get easier for you soon.

hey this happens to everyone so you're not alone. i guess you're just too used of having someone beside you. give yourself some time...after all you mentioned that there were no space between the two relationships that you had so now is the time to pamper yourself and do whatever you want. dont worry, you'll pull it through. be strong and have hope..everything will be okay, there's always a silver lining in every cloud. we're all here for you too! take care and hope you're feeling much happier today:)

time heals all wounds. Even though you say you dont want him back Im sure you are still sad. Give it time. Get out and do things. its summer time there are lots of things to do.