Should I tell my mother in law or not?

I agree with irishidid!!

It may take a while but your hair will grow back, then you can go to another hair dresser and ask them to style it for you.

If you hurt your MIL feelings then not only are you hurting hers but maybe your partners aswell (since it is his mum)

i do not agree... u should def tell your mother your thoughts... just not in a harsh manner

I agree. I wouldnt make too big of a deal over but I would def. mention to her that you like the haircut but wish she would have cut it differently. Somethings in life just arent making waves over.

Either that or just dont say anything and bring her someone else to get her haircut next time.

You are right that the hair will grow back and hurt feelings may never heal. My mil and I are making progress towards friendship and if I say something it might ruin that.

I also agree with you, but honesty can help relationships to grow to.


Try to be honest and maybe that will improve.

The longer it takes for you to do that, it will get worse.. and perhaphs one day that issue can pop out on one later discussion and start a chain reaction:(


Honest is the way to go..

I don't like hurting other peoples feelings either and that was part of the reaason I let her cut it. I had only let her trim it on occasion and this time I let her cut it. My daughter didn't help matters because after grandma messed hers up she demanded I get mine cut. So I was put on the spot and in the middle of this mess lol. HA I love some of your heres how to tell them advice lol. Thanks for the help.

I usually do go to the salon for the getting the big cuts and styles and just let her trim my hair once in a while. I think my mil just took it personally instead of like constructive. My daughter didn't handle it well either she was making faces in the mirror and acting like she was going to cry. instead of just saying that it wasn't cut right. But even had she said it like an adult I think grandma would have been mad.

We are not real close. I think sometimes she thinks I don't like her and I sometimes thinks she don't like me. I really do like her and we are becoming closer. I am afraid that if I say anything she will take it personally instead of me trying to explain that a customer will want what they ask for and not just what ever she decides to do. I think you maybe right I may have to take the whimps way out.

She has not been out of school for more than a couple of years. I think part of it is not being experienced. It seems like if you go to the more updated schools they teach you better than the old ones like she went to. I also think part of it is insecerity. My daughter did handle the situation badly as she made faces and acted like she was going to cry. I think that made it worse than if she would have just said she wasn't happy. I usually go somewhere else but usually let her do the childrens hair because she usually does a decent job on them. I am afraid if I say anything else about it the rift it will cause may never be fixed.

I understand the dilema.

If you've gone to someone different in the past and they did it right maybe you can try and ask her why she didn't do it like the other stylist but be sure not to do it in an accusing way. Just be like "I happened to notice you use a different way to create the haircut I asked for than (name of a different stylist), are there different ways to do the haircut?". If she gets huffy and takes it personal then you can say you were only asking because of the differences you noticed. Hopefully she will not get hurt but it would be a way to find out why she did what she did and also a way to ask in case there is a next time if she could use the same techniques the other systlist used.

But, if you dont' want to cause a rift at all then maybe the best option would be to not go back to her and only address the situation if she's asks why you aren't getting haircuts from her.

Hell-oo...this is the mother-in-law. A mother-in-law with permission to cut her d-i-l's hair. She was probably ticked off by the granddaughter's response and took her anger out on the kid's Mom.. I reckon, just let it go because nothing good can come out of this situation. Just go somewhere else in future. If she asks, just say you prefer your usual stylist and leave it there. I'll bet she doesn't do refresher courses.

She usually does do the kids hair and usually does a good job. She might have been having an off day. I just rarely let her cut mine because I know that I will not get what I ask for lol. The only reason at all I want to say anything is so that she won't do this to a customer but I am terrified that she will be very upset with me. I did not say anything to her in the shop because she had several customers waiting to have their hair done. Maybe I can bring it up casually next time we are over.

I am for sure going to start going somewhere else to get mine done again. I let my fear of hurting her feelings ruin my good sense lol.

I know my own mother would not take it so personal. I am afraid if I tell her she will think I am attacking her or that I dislike her. I am going to try to maybe bring it up in a casual conversation. If I get brave enough lol.

I am so afraid of hurting her feelings and putting a bigger rift between us then their already is. I have lots of people here saying to say something and others say not to. I am going to see if I can get brave and just mention it.

I have gotten a lot of mixed advice on this one. I am for sure going to go to a different hair stylist the next time. I think I may try to bring it up during a casual conversation but not go out of my way to bring it up. I may chicken out though lol. It has taken us years to get close and well we still are not all the way there yet.