Did you ever consider putting your own child in adoption?

You do what is best for the children. As hard as it may be. This is only after you have exhausted all other options. The man's first obligation is to the his children in the marriage.

If I couldnt afford to feed the kids, I would put them up for adoption without hesitation. I know how hard this is for the parents but they have to think of the children and please ask them to stop having more kids.
9 years ago/i put my daughter up for adoption because I was in no position to take care of her at that time so I know how hard it can be.
If you cant care for your child the way it deserves to be cared for, adoption is the only answer!!

Hugs, Tianna

I think the family needs help. It is the duty of government, hospital or local authorities to help them. Help them is not in the sense of providing food and money. But to do family planing. You know that the burden of a single family is the burden of society and the nation itself. It is better to plan for few kids and make them grow well within their financial boundaries. Suppose if everyone thought the same way as their parents any country wouldn,t have developed. Take the case of China. Too much population and now the country forces one child policy. It is important to educate people so that they would'nt see harder days ahead in terms of finance and decision making.

I don't think so. There are plenty of food stamps and WIC and other options. I do not see how one could not get buy unless the parents are addicts to something. They may not have the best home life and may struggle, but I think after the 6th one I would have gotten my tubes tied.

I have a brother one year older that my mother put up for adoption when he was born. his adopting parents where a Banker and a doctor. He later in life graduated with a degree in accounting and is happly married with two children. I on the other hand had all the love love from my real mom. never enough cash to go to college and am almost forty with out a happy marriage and no education. i perssonally dont think that adoption is a bad thing as long as the kid is going to a family with love and material to share.:)

ayessa my answer to this whole thing is do not have more children than you can afford to feed, use birth control
and do not get into such a situation. i as a tax payer do not want to have to pay the money it costs for welfare for
afamily that never planned their family at all. and have a child every year so they can stay on welfare forever. In todays tough financail situation we are fools if we try to raise a large family if we do not have the funds, its not fair to the kids or to other people. use birth control and plan.

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Oh, it's really a difficult time. But although about those reasons I just not want to put my own child in adopting. I see a lot a TV program for some family loose there child or give their child to others before. They are missing their child very much, and want to see their child again. It's really hard to find their child again, once find, whether the child still think they are parents?

No raised eyebrow here. I was only 19 when I got pregnant with my now nine year old daughter. I had just finished high school, began college, and had a good job. Though she was not planned, she is my blessing. For almost my entire pregnancy, I had planned to give her to a loving and very financial stable couple. I was sure that she would be happier and have more opportunities than I could give her.

Now, I couldn't imagine letting go of her or any of my future children. She is my joy and my life. I love what I see when I look her and I love the affect that I have on her. She looks at me with such trust and sometimes I think she understands me the most. God know what he was doing and I prayed about giving her up. I'm glad she's here and I'm glad she's with me.

First I would leave the husband because he has a mistress and another child. Then I would do what I had to do to support those kids. I would get state's assistance if I had to until I could get on my own two feet. I would attend college and make a life for me and the kids.