I let my three year old pick out her own clothes.......

i have two daughters one 3 and the other 5, i allow both of my daughters to not only pick which clothes they want to wear out of there wardrobes but also allow them to choose what clothes they want when we are shopping i think this allows them independance

Forgive me for sounding DENSE, but I thought that was the whole point of going from a toddler to a BIG kid, like you said you become more and more independant of mommie and daddy and sort of learn how to live. And you are so right she is going to have to pick and choose her own clothes so why not start now. Is she familiar with her colors,if not maybe when does learn them better she will know what goes with what. My 4 yr. old (birthday today) has been picking out her clothes for the last year. She usually does denim bottoms with any top and jeans go with just about anything so she's always good with the color coordination thing. I say let her do her thing... its great that she's taking the initiative to pick out her own stuff!

^_^ I think thats awesome haha, I agree soon or later she will start picking out her own clothes which she would like. So I don't think this is a bad age to start at. When I was her age my mom would never let me pick out my own cloths haha.. Probably because I wasn't color coordinated haha. The only thing my mom would let me pick out was my toys haha. which was so much fun yayayay haha. IT sounds like you and your daughter have fun doing that. AWESOME

Go for it is what I say, my son gets to choose what he wears quite a lot (hs just 5) and even at 3 was doing the same as your daughter. My son isn't co-ordinated at all but he is happy and that is the main thing, the other week he had on shorts, t-shirt, green socks and sandles and someone mentioned the socks and asndles to me and I just said it was his choice. They need to be able to choose their own things now and then, it makes them independent and they feel treated as an equal and as being a 'big girl/boy'. You cary on the way you are going, you are doing a great job, stuff what other people think the main concern is your daughters happyness and she is obviously happy! Take Care

I agree with that as well.
Children should be able to show independence in safe ways. Now I don't let my stepdaughters (6 & 11) pick out clothes that the characters on tv wear: short skirts, tight tops, etc. I see no reason to encourage them to look like less like young women now only to have them ask "why not?" when they gets older and fill out. But within the range that my husband and I show them, they are allowed to choose whatever they wants.
Same for my son (2) who, surprisingly loves, to pick out his clothes and, unsurprisingly, has no color coordination either.

You did a very good job.I think she should know already how to do things but in your guide.She have to experiment to learned things.I think she's so smart to do things like that.Follow what you think is better why you should listened to them.If she is happy and i know you will be more happy.And she is 3 years old she is starting to like to see that she can have clothes that she want to wear.I have niece and she like skirt,and sexy clothes like the top is sleeveless and very short skirt.Sometime she combite green and red.. hahaha ..its really funny if you are going to see it becouse the combination is terrible.But if you will see her face how happy she is becouse she wear a clothes that she like that is unpayable.And that is the most important w/ anything.I could never forget her face when she asked me "Tita can i have this on"I said why not?
I enjoy buying clothes w/ her in the mall.She like to pick colorfull clothes.
But now she is 2 year highschool,in my opinion she can be better that me if its about style.She got style that no body can have.She like to customize her clothes w/ something and adding things.
She doesn't like boring clothes that what she call it.And when she asked me if she can go study designer i said yes.If that is what she want.I support her w/ everything even she is my sister daugther but i raised her just like mine.
Just enjoy the time w/ your daugther and let her experiment things thats the way she is going to learn things. Have a nice day..TC

Greetings from Che!

I think it's none of your friends and family's business. Letting your child pick her own clothes is a way to show her that her actions impact her own environment and that she has control over part of her life. This is one area of her life where she is mentally capable of making decisions and is a benign enough situation that you can allow her to make those decisions occasionally. From a psychological standpoint, especially concerning the child's cognitive development, this is a good thing for you to do. Next time your family or friends bring it up, tell them that you don't feel that you need to pick out her clothes every single day and that you also don't feel it's their business what you allow your child to wear.

My daughter also began choosing her own clothes around the same age. If we were going somewhere special though, I would pick out two or three appropriate outfits and let her choose one of the three. However, the rest of the time I let her wear what she wanted. She developed her own taste and sense of style and at sixteen, she is very good at choosing and her clothing.

I let my 3 yr old pick out her own clothes. I normally shop for her without her being around, but sometimes when she is with me I will let her decide. But on a daily basis I let her pick, I started by letting her pick the color and then dress or pants and she does pretty well.

I don't see a problem. That's about the age where they start to show some independance and that is a pretty safe way for them to express themselves. I once had a sweet pastor's wife tell me the story about her daughter doing that. She finally made a wee sign that said, "'Haley' is now dressing herself, please congratulate her!" LOL! She was getting a bit of flack and 'Haley' was too it seems. That way the people knew to be a bit more...uhmm...sensitive. Cute stuff those kiddos! My son also likes to pick his own clothes. He will pick it all and dress himself and his daddy is so proud of him.