ditching school

Hi insanceduck
We talked about this before, I've told her that if she wanted to stay from school,to let me know, this way I know where she is at. This happen already twice, and if she can't come up to me and tell me, what I'm I to think. I know she not getting into trouble, it's the principal of the thing. She didn't tell. Right now she's at an age where I can't talk to her. She rolls her eyes everytime I ask her to do something. I now she mad at me, last night I asked to wash dishes, she only washed what she used and left the rest there. This got me upset, I told her, you don't do anything when you're home and when I ask you to wash dishes you get mad. So I think she ditch because of last night. She only had six weeks of summer school. All I asked was that she go everyday. Believe me I've talked and talked, yelling, not yelling, and still nothing. Believe I have tired all that you're telling me. I don't know what else to do. I give up and let her father deal with her. thank you for your response, I will keep you posted.

Hello again
She is home and I didn't yell and I didn't say anything, she handed me over her stuff and told me "go ahead and yell at me" I told i didn't have to. She kept crying. I say next to her and i asked why she did what she did. She said that she didn't feel like going to school and wanted to stay with her friend. I told her again, if you wanted to stay home you should have told me. We need to talk and we can settle this. So the outcome of this little mess, is that she will not continue her summer school, I'm going to call her consuler and have her add another class to her schedule. She was worried that I was mad at her friend, I told no I wasn't but not to do that again. She told me that I should know where she's at. I told her no, I don't know where you're at. What if something happen to you and her, than what. I hugged her and told her to relax and that she still couldn't have her stuff back.

Hi carolscash,
My oldest daughter, when she was going to high school, would call me and let me know that she wasn't going to school. I was working at the time, and I told I need to know where she was all the time. We had that trust between us. Danielle, doesn't seem to want to trust me. Even Michelle has told, let mom know what you're doing, where your going and if you're going to ditch, let her know, she won't get mad. She still doesn't listen, I just have to keep my word and the rest of the summer she will be MIA to her friends. She doesn't do anything around the house, what more does she want. thanks for your response. I'll will keep you posted on what happen to her.

Hi danish
Heck no I would not call my mother back, I make the best of it, go home and see what happens.Danielle is 16. And we talked about this before, I told her that if wanted to stay from school she could, if you going to stay at a friends house let me know, I'm not going to get upset. Well her father called her and yelled at her and she's pretty scared of him. I just worry that something could happen to her and I wouldn't anything. I would hate to hear it from the cops. I use to be her age, and I also ditched school, but I never got caught. But I couldn't tell my mother that I wanted to stay home, because she get mad. I couldn't talk to my mother, I'm giving her a chance to talk to me and that she can trust me. but I guessed wrong. I'll keep you posted. thanks for your resonse.

Hi checapricorn,
I think this was her idea. I know she did it because she is mad at me. I've tried talking to her, she at the age where she just won't listen to me. I tell my husband to talk to her. whenever I try, she will close the door on my face, she will roll her eyes at me or she will agree with everything I say, just to shut me up. I've told her time and time again. Keep me inform of your where abouts, I don't stop from going to her friends, to the mall, movies. she does all that and yet she turns around and does this. All I can say is that she is going to be very bored this summer. It's a good time to start reading books. I'll take them away her also, all reading material, painting, drawing, (just kidding) thanks for your response.

ohhh....Anyway, I wish the sanction will help her learn from her mistake!

I hope so to. I told her that she could have an hour with her ipod, and computer. but there are no roll over minutes. she could acumulate her hours and use all at once also. I also let her use her ipod at night, since she told i snore. LOL

I'll give back her stuff in a couple of weeks, I just want her to know that I mean business and I don't want her to lie to me again. This will make her think twice before doing it again. she told me I get a high, taking all her stuff away. I told her she was right. She has been asking for she could listen to her ipod, and all I do is give her the look, "what do you think," she'll walk away.

They push so much at that age, well done for not giving in to her. I have two girls 21 and 17 so have had many moments like this over the years believe me and I think you are doing the right thing here. She may not like you for what you are doing right now but she still loves you eh and she;ll thank you for it in years to come. Ellie:D

Hi Lovespecialangel,
You're lucky to work at the school, this way you know if your kids are there or not. She was not happy when I told gave her the punishment. So what I did, was to let her use her things for an hour. She asked me if I was going to give back everything when schools starts, I told I had to think about it. I just don't want her to lie to me, be up front, tell me whats bothering you. She said that she will stated talking to me. I really hope so. thanks for responding.