cheating wife or husband

If I ever caught my husband cheating that would be it for us. Even if i didn't catch him in the act. If I found out about it or he confessed it would be over. my heart would be broken. that is definetly one thing i could never get over. no matter how hard i tried i wouldn't be able to trust him again. i would always be wondering if he was doing again. i wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life checking for signs and being worried he'd hurt me again.

I think it depends alot on the people themselves and also on the basics of the relationship. I think that if the relationship isn't really going that great to begin eith that can just end up being the last straw. I also think it depends on the reasons behind it. My husband did something really dumb on the internet with some chick a couple months ago, and even though it wasn't an actual affair, to me it was the same thing. And I had to say had it happened 6 months earlier that probably would have been the last straw, we have been struggling pretty much since the beginning but the past 4-6 months before things had started getting better and I was finally becoming somewhat happy, but we still have our problems, and even though I won't let him know because I don't want him thinking he can justify it I could understand why it happened. I had actually expected something to eventually happen. Plus she was a trickster looking for trouble was blackmailing him and everything afterwords. But we worked it out, I don't feel that I have to worry about this bieng an ongoing problem. So I think it really depends on the situation before and when it happens that would decide the outcome.