'For Better, for Worse, till death do us part'?

Yes, I believe that is probable cause for a divorce. It is even in the bible which I read for myself. But I am sure there are many that dont agree with that or find it much concrete. God gave us common sense and wisdom. I am sure he wants us to respect marriage as being sacred but he doesn't want us to take abuse or anything like that.

My huband and I did not have a church wedding. We wanted to make the point that we were vowing our love and commitment to eachother, wit no pressure rom so called outside autorities. We are totally committed to eachother. Adultery would be a deal reaker for us. We don't need to worry though, because we are totally ommitted to eachother.

abrahamic law allowa divorce in such cases anf so so should the church!

I don't know if the Catholic Church condones divorce. I think they would suggest counseling.
However, sometimes we can't follow every rule of our religion.

I don't know the rules now, but last time I heard, in the case of adultry, you can get an annulment.

When we take our vows in front of friends, family, priest and our diety, the thought of divorce weighs heavily on our minds. I decided after years of berating myself that I meant forever at that moment. The relationship turned abusive and forever was over.

I had a friend who cheated on her husband. My friend went to her pastor asking for advice. He told her she must tell her husband, and she did. Her husband said he understood and he knew it was his fault that she sought comfort another man. He forgave her and she forgave him and the marriage continued.

I am not really sure but to me adultery should be terms for a divorce in any case.

This is really good discussion, but I thing that someone who is catholic, can explain it better then anyone else.
BTW, I am orthodox.

Hi zandi458, The Roman Catholic church does not condone divorce but recommends counselling. Jesus Christ made the Christian position on divorce very clear in Matthew 5:32. I believe however that the position he took on divorce was meant more for the people of that particular time in history, when most women without a husband to support her was in dire straights. While I believe that many breakups are unnecessary no one should stay in an abusive relationship. If we are to reduce the divorce rate, marriage has to be taken more seriously than it is by some at present. At the first sign of trouble, couples should seek counselling. I think that all churches should allow divorce under reasonable circumstances. Blessings.

Its actually very akward i asked my grandmother that question and she told me that it´s not right to divorce even for adultery, i am not sure if the response she gave me is accurate and up to date....

I think a couple should at least try to work out the problem. I am speaking about adultery as well. A person should never just throw in the towel because there are thorns that show up in the marriage. I think that in some situations there is no other thing to do than divorce. But adultery is not one of these. I think the couple should find out why this happened and try to work at fixing whatever is at the root of the problem. If you try to do this and things can still not be worked out than I think than and only than the divorse should go ahead.

i want to say that vows to the guy whom i really love, and who loves me right back, my boyfriend and are planning to get married two years from now, but knowing that there are chances that we might end up separated because he might like somebody else, while he is married to me, just makes me feel not wanting to marry him at all..i just want to be married happy, and i want my marriage to last, i don't know what lies in he future, but i can only pray about how uncertain it is.