DIVORCE, EASIER.....has it gone too far?

Not only has divorcing become easier with no fault divorces, society has become more accepting of divorce, so it no longer carries the stigma it used to. I think it's a shame that our society doesn't encourage married couples to stay together but there are more lawyers than there are marriage counselors and they make a lot more money so they bark the loudest.

I think many people nowadays go into a marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out, then they will just get a divorce. It's that simple...or is it? It makes me wonder do they listen to the vows that they are saying to each other? Do they say these words because it's just apart of the vows, & for no other reason? I mean no one said that marriage was easy. It's going to have it's ups & downs. You are going to have many fights some over small matters & some over bigger problems. The thing is you work through them together. If you have kids thats an even more reason to try your best to stay together. It's makes me so mad that it is so very easy to get a divorce nowadys. Most young people go into marriage because they dream of a beautiful wedding & how wonderful it would be to play house & have babies. Then suddenly reality heads them dead on...Marriage is a lot harder then they thought. Now worries, we will just get a divorce. This is the type of thinking that has broken up the family circle. This is why children act out. This is why the crime rate is so high. I could go on & on, but whats the use. Nowadays people care about one thing & one thing only: Their own happiness & to heck with the happiness of their children or spouse. Sorry for ranting, but it just makes me so angry that people today do not take the marriage vows to heart but just recite them by mouth. "Till death do you part" people...you are saying these words for a reason, why not try to mean them as you say them!!

I thik there are two factors here.

a) People are not stayig in ad marriages because they are ashamed. They are now free to move on so they do.

b) People are aking ADVANTAGE of this new rigt and not looking before they leap.

I got married knowing that I could get divorced if I ever though I needed to, BUT WHY WOULD I WANT TO? I married a man whom I want to spend my life with, and who wants to spend his life with me.

Married people are no longer ound to abusive relationships because of the marriage ow, but too much advantage is taken because people are taking this right way too far.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
I think a positive thought would ease the situation for both spouse. Let marriages be lost for ever. Everywhere there are problems, then why not carry on with little comromise with same partners. What is the gurantee, for future success. Have a nice time.

I am afraid we dissagree on this since as much as God hates divorce i dont feel he wants his children to live either in fear or in missery these days with so much spousal abuse I fell why he may not totaly approve he definatly understands!

FOR BETTER AND FOR BETTER.

WE SHALL NOT PART

BUT IF I HAVE A HICCUP IN THE MARRIAGE I'M OUT OF HERE. BYE

Been there and seen it, It seems there are many who dont care, they take and take, but when the give come to the front, no way and their gone.

Like I said I've seen it twice, (my luck or not) you cant hold the marriage together if you are the only one working at it.

Where the partner, gone and moved on to another BETTER and BETTER
and where are you, left behind to clean up the mess.

Great fun marriage if your the RUNNER.

HICCUP/

I think that the reason that divorce is more popular is because people are becoming more individual and a woman no longer has to be a slave to her husband, but while this individualism is coming in. The pressure to marry is still there, if you are reaching a certain age and you are not married then that still carries a certain stigma along with it. This also explain why the "Christian marriage" is no longer a religious affair, people are only marrying in churches as it is tradition, a large percentage of the time. I don't see a problem with divorce, just with the pressure of marriage.

this just dont work out that way . specially of one of them has gone out on the other or beat the other lots of the=ings come to mind that just to me cant be reaconsiled.
And really its the Cathoilic church that you have trouble with not any of th oother ones for I have seen lots of them out of other churches!
And they didnt make a pledge to the children for they wernt here at the time!

Well I'm sure no one will agree with me, but here we go... First off one of your key words - institution. Yep, thats pretty much what most marriages are. Its like being locked in an institution with no get out of jail free card. I now believe that marriage is an old tradition and not really necessary for family life. Why should we spend our entire life (and most Christians think you only get one) with someone who makes us miserable just because we agreed and signed some form. I myself tried to make my marriage "work" for many such reasons and also for "our son's sake." What a joke that was. My ex and I were miserable as was our son living in a tension filled home. We should have cut our losses years earlier and got on with our separately happy lives. Instead we "did the right thing" and made each other miserable for over 20 years. Yes there may be more divorces these days, but maybe if more people did get divorced when so miserable you wouldn't hear so much about child abuse, spouse abuse and murder/suicides on the news every day.

if there is no reason for them to hold on get divorce