A complete family

Yes dear i fully agre in our country still kids are responsible to take care of their aging parents but this is also dying tradition...i see my own grandmother she has 7 children all are well settled 4 daughters and 3 sons..she is 96 years old...my uncle left my bedridden grandmother alone in the village and went away on a vacation without giving a thought about her well being or making any other alternate arrangement all the children have retired and my dad is the only one still working his last two years before he retires from his job...surprisingly someone was needed to go and look after the mother all daughters and sons refused to take her and said put her in old age home my dad was very furious took leave flew down hired an ambulance and got her home and now my mom and dad look after her everyday....so you see we can consider ourselves lucky if our children look after us when we are old..

My parents want us to carry on a separate life after marriage,My parents also lived like that but,always took care of my grand parents too,they often went to see them and we have a happy big family.My parents just love to be alone and spend their time relaxing,They consider husband and wife as a another family so does my grand parents.I know some families live together with their brothers and sisters and having many problems in their families.cheers..

There are times when one parent is enough for the kids to live normally. I have seen kids who are more cared for while they are in orphanages. It is very ideal to see kids with both their parents but there are also times when this is not possible.

seems like everybody here can't wait to leave their parents home. i know i could't.i think they were as glad as me for me to leave. inever did get along w/them that well. they were not happy w/each other & my sister & i paid for that.i married young just toget away from them.my mother is gone now but our relstioship never did improve that much.my dad is still living & is in bad healt,i am not close to him either. i would have doneforeither of thembut mother didn't want me to.she latched on to my older sonbecause i never did please her w/anything i did.my dad had a son by another marriage so he never needed me either. just the way things go.

As far as first part of your discussion is concerned, I completely buy your arguments. It generally happens that if there are more than two brothers, parents stay with either of them and their respective daughters-in-law does not appreicate it. People are becoming self-centred and do not want to be disturbed by the presence of elderly in-laws. They prefer nuclear families and they forget what are the benefits of staying in a Joint family with in-laws or parents. They forget that one day they would also grow old and when their sons and daughters-in-law would part company with them, how would they feel. Compassion is dying down slowly but steadily for old and elderly people, which is very sorry state of affairs.
I am really sorry to note that you lost your husband when your daughter was just 8 years old. Hopefully, God would have given you enough strength and courage to come out of the irrepairable loss.

I appreciate your definition of family. I myself is the only son and I have three sisters, all of them are married. My father died and my mother stays with me. During holidays she also goes and stays with her daughters. It is not right to leave the old generation alone uncared as we all have to go through these phase. Moreover our children has every right to enjoy the company of their grandpa and grandma.

It's not common that parents live with their kids in Holland, but it happens occaissonaly. There are pretty good alternatives for elderly to live in houses that have a special bell with which they can ring someone for help but is entirely independant. There are also carehomes for the elderly allthough there are bad rumours about them it doesn't have to be a bad place if there are enough people to visit and you like to do activities with other people; it's not suitable for anyone.

My grandma lived with us untill she passed away. My mom never moved out, my dad merely moved in and it has been like that forever. It was nice to have here around that much and I feel that it's a great thing. My mom doesn't want to live with me and my boyriend because she has experienced the impact on her life caring for het mother who needed quite a lot of medical attention and she could never leave the house when she pleased and allways needed to look out for her first.
She did this with love but it has had a great impact on her and she doesn't want me to have the same thing.

Both my mom and my dad are people who love activiteit, my mom would be one of the old grannies knitting and sowing and talking to anyone and everyone; making herself a good time rather then sitting around. But then again; everyone's different. If I had to I'd take her in a heartbeat and my dad aswell but she doesn't want it herself and my dad neither.

I dont know from where did that myth came up? why should only sons be the full strength to support their parents and if a parents doesnt have a male child where would they go to Ashrams and old age homes? I love my parents so much i always tell them that i will surely support them and they have to be with me like this as a family but they highly disagree me and they just hurt my feelings by saying "we have our son to support us after marriage you need not bother about our living as you yourself going to live in someone's home" But i've fallen in love with a guy and he is the only son of his family and i told him what my parents told me he asked me not to worry that if my brother denies my parents then he will surely support them.im in my college living with my parents only they always feel that i'm just a temporary member in the house

I have 4 wonderful childern and me and my husband have been married for 7 years now. I have seen families that there is only one parent it something that is always hard for me to understand marriage vows are suppose to be scared and meant to be taken seriously when me and my husband got married we took and we still take our vows seriously I don't know what makes some people stay together and break up I have personally never understood don't they know how much it effects the kids.

I am a college student so im in a transitional stage from leaving my house to living on my own. I'm quite an independent person so I was more than eager to take the steps to living on my own. Although I will still spend time at my parents house and stay there for a weekend on ocassion, I definently enjoy living on my own much more because of the freedom.

Generally the tradition in my family is to live at home until about 18 and then slowly transition into living on your own while in college. In America, I think this is the typical scenario for most families.