why my parents are against my love?

Be patient and have more understanding toward your parent. Follow your heart then go to your love ones.

i cannot understand why a couple who themselves had a love marriage would oppose to their child having a love marriage..i can only see some specific reason for their denials Practicality of life..is the boy well settled in a good job...does he have any vices like alcoholism etc..if the guy is good then i am sure if she talks to them they will agree for the marriage..and finally if she is an adult she can do what they did but it is a big decision and she will have to take the complete responsibility of the married relation ..does she trust him enough to risk it?

I really don't like elopement.
But if you are forced to marry someone
you don't love. Better to elope with your
partner. The decision has to be made or
else you will regret it for the rest of
your life.

There is one thing you must remember, all parents want their children to enjoy their lives,they have no intention to destroy your happiness,generation gap, I would say,more communication may help,good luck!

its irony. at times the parents act unusually. while they married out of love taht too intercaste marriage, they are opposing it. I have seen it amny times. may be they just act the same cruel way they faced?it should have been other way round. but its complex human psychology

I want you to make safe in your future. That's why wants you to marry whom they know. may be he is finaciallyy good and better take care of you. i think they felt bad when thier parents stop talking them. they dont want you also feel same pain. So you go and talk to your parents about his family, their view about their son and your marriage, his finacial position, his job, his positive behaviour towards life. And see how your parent get agree to your marriage.

Are you man or woman. You are 52 years old man, how is possible you can not make any dicision by yourself. That's really bad.

Now supposed you make the fake information. You are 20 years old girl. I could tell my experience to you. I used to have the same experience as you. My father took away my ID card and keys, because he is afraid that I would get married with my boyfriend secretly and without the keys, my date can not be too late. Everyday, I lived in tearful and stressful. I wasn't happy at all even I was in love. The love would be hard without parents's support. Any the love was destroyed also. In your country and my country, the parents look their kids as private property. They think you don't understand anything about the life. They think they make your dicision because they love you, they wish you have a good life if you following their guide.

If he is a good guy to worth you against your parents, go ahead or you will regret your life. But he is not that good, forget it, maybe your parents are right.

hi there season0907,
I will intens to gave my parents my view of live. You just need more communication with them. All parent are just wanted their children to be happy. Ypu just need to be patient to speak with them.
Good luck!!
oxox'dian

Hello season0907 Ji,
I just am not able to get few points to make correct councelling as below:
1. Shall I consider 'season0907 ' as 'I' as pronounced as input, if it is so, the age is 52 yrs as per profile.
2. Next are you in love with the boy, I do not think so.
3. What I could get is like this, a marriageable daughter, whose parents were affair married earlier are not permitting their own daughter to carry on with her b/f. If it is so, and wants to fix up her marriage somewhere else against the wish of their daughter. And a advise is needed.
If it is like this, Girl in question should ask concrete convincing reply from her parents. may be that, her parents might have sailed in rough sea throughout their life, so they do not want, but tehy have to explain in pacifying vocabulary, befor girl takes unwanted action. Plaese advise her parents. matter can be settled. In afct parents should be happy taht girl has found her own way and they do not ahve to bother at all. Have a nice time.

Maybe what they are against is how hard they had it and want to save you from the same situation. I don't know how close you and your parents are but have you tried sitting them down and talking with them. Find out why they are against this and tell them your feelings on marring this girl. Give your parents time. Sometimes it is hard to see one of you sons or daughters go out on their own and make their own decisions. If you are truly in love with the girl give your parents time to get to know her. But after a reasonable amount of time if they still don't want you to marry her go with your heart. At that point you have tried everything you can to have them understand that this is the women you want to spend the rest of your life with.