A Jealous Brother

Well, sibling rivalry is present in every family... but that doesn't hinder brothers and sisters from being there for each other... and i think your brother is acting like a baby for feeling that way... despite the fact that you two are all grown up...

Since the two of you are obviously close... i think you should talk things out... and make him realize that there is no reason for him to be jealous... or even make him feel that you are more jealous of him... that might help...

All families have problems and not all are the same could understand. Well just try to understand him more. Just let it go, don't mind it. In time he will change. Now if he wants attention with your mom, make a way by letting your mom have time with him also. Don't make it a big issue. Just be there for him, when you do something good you feel good, and blessings will come your way. As long as your doing the best for everyone. Have a nice day!

I think that is a typical setup especially when you belong to a large family. sibling rivalry is very common. What you and your brother is pretty much normal. I am lucky I only have one sister and we are only two in the family. When we were young, we fight quite often sometimes it came to a point of physically violent to one another. I never thought that we would ever reconcile again but after we separated ways when we began our lives as adults we became very close to each other again. And right now she just became a good sister to me and would always come to support me in times of need. Well I think as we grew matured we realized that we are brother and a sister no matter what. I hope in your case it will just resolved itself out since I find it pretty petty compared to what me and my sister went through.

i understand what you feel on this situation ..but i guess both of you must talk ...regarding this or i mean his notion of whatever or being jealous or whatever..since i guess its not proper to compete with a sister or brother or not even with relatives...competition is a healthy one if its being done in good motive..

Hi gr8life,

Wow! That is hard! I mean maybe the feeling since you were young was still there, haunting him that everyone loves you and that everyone favors you...That is not healthy for him, he is just like having an enemy and that is his own jealousy to you!

Anyway, try to write him a letter for him on his Birthday or Christmas telling him how lucky you are to have a brother like him and that you are very proud of him, any words that will assure him that he is love by everyone...Hope it will help!

You should not think that it is something wrong or unique to you and your brother. Sibling rivalry is one of the means for nature to bring out the best. In birds, the stronger offspring would push out the weaker one in order to eliminate competition for scarce food which results in the stronger having a better chance to make it in the world instead of two weak, malnourished ones. With humans, it is not as simplistic as with birds and we do have a superior brain to deal with it. Cheers!!

Hi gr8life, this seems to happen a lot in families. My husbands two sons are so jealous of each other that they have not talked to each other in over eight years! They are very competitive and had a big blow up and will not even talk to each other and the youngest hates the oldest and both are not that much younger then me. Whenever my husbands family has holiday outings neither boy will be there because they are afraid the other one will be there. It is such a shame and such a waste! I feel for you gr8life and I am just glad that it is only jealousness that you brother feels for you and not worse! I wish I knew what to say that could help change how your brother feels twords you. Take care and Hugs!

That the problem when you have some sibling,when i was living with my parent i have isome sister and i am the second youngest.and my mom im her favorite daughter.and my father is his favorite daughter is my youngest sister.My mom do anything to me like for example make food for me but not with my youngest sister,sometimes she just in the living room and try to say something that she get jealous of me because mom do all things for me but for her she need to do herself.But my dad even she is his favorite daughter my dad cant do like my mom do to me..my sister jus quickly she is no problem when i told my mom about this she never noticed that my sister get jealous because my mom do the same way as she do to me but my sister cannot see that but maybe not all mom do to me that why she think like that.But now we are both married we dont have a problem for that anymore,we think that it was a childish alttitude.Gurl try to talk to him..you must be not like that because you are family.try to talk and fix it.

Hello gr8life,


There must be a deep rooted reason why your brother is like this, maybe he overheard something or somebody said something to him when he was a child because that is why he bahaved the way he did as a child and as a adult he most probably don't remember it be that feeing of jealousy is till instilled there. Yry and talk to him about and you might come to some understanding, families are all you have so treasure it as long possible.

Tamara

It is normal in the family to have rivalry but it doesnt mean that you don't love each other.This happened for our family also but deep inside us we all love each other.Its just that we are just human someones we feel jealous when our parents pay more attention to their other chidren but it doesn't mean that they love them more.They both love their children equally.