Alone and Disowned...

Thank God I have never had my parents tell me that I have been disowned. Nor have I known of anyone that has been in that situation.

Sure I have had disagreements with my parents. They were not alway thrilled with the choices that I have made. But the thing that they always did with me was to let me know how they felt. They then always said that I needed to make the mistakes in order to learn. They wanted me to be able to stand on my own two feet at some point and not to always depend on them as they would not always be with me to save me.
They always let me know that no matter what they would support me to the very end. They never went back on that word either. I am so blessed to have the family that I do. I thank my lucky stars every single day

My oldest daughter and her family have disowned us. This happened almost a year ago even though before she told us she wanted nothing more to do with us things had gotten sort of bad. They would move and not even let us know where they were or if they were ok. The only time we would hear from them is if they wanted or needed anything. The last straw for her was when we refused to do any more. Her husband don't work and neither does she and they have 4 children. They live off the state and think everything should be given to them and if people don't then they get mad at them and remove them from their life. They have stolen from us before also. This also is a long story with them. I have figured out that I can not dwell over it all the time, yes it does hurt but the way they treated us also hurt very deeply. I would have never treated my parents the way my daughter has done us. There is just so much we can do, maybe one day they will come around but to tell you the truth right now there is still so much hurt and so many hateful things said to me I am not sure if I could allow her back in my life right now at this time with open arms.
I am so happy that you got yours straightened out and that you are happy with it now.

I was never officially disowned, but there were several really awkward years with my family. I basically only spoke to them at Christmas, and not at all through the rest of the year (and I'm pretty sure there was one Christmas where I didn't even speak to them). I was still close with one of my sisters, but other than her, I was very anti-family.

This situation has all worked itself out now, and I'm actually about to go spend a week with my other sister, who was one of the biggest proponents of not speaking to me for those couple of years. I still only rarely talk to my dad and my brother, though that's more because of other situations than the nearly being disowned one.

Yes I have been disowned many times. I always managed to get back on their good side though so it was all OK in the end. It never actually bothered me at that time being disowned, I could not have cared less to be honest. I never minded being left totally alone, at least then I had no one to please but myself because I just got sick of being a disappointment all the time.

I think it would bother me more now I was older to be disowned, I seem to take things to heart more than I used too.

I wasn't really disowned but my mom was for a few years and since we were her kids we might just as well been. My grandmother didn't approve of my mothers choices and so when she got her third divorce my grandmother wrote her a note disowning us. She couldn't even do it face to face, because we were in a different state. It made my mom g trough some rough times knowing that she was the black sheep of her family and that she had no one to rely on anymore but us kids. I think that is what made me,my brother and my mom so close. We were broke and if it hadn't been for the goodness of some strangers we would have been off way worse. Isn't it funny how total strangers help more then family sometimes? So we were disowned when I was 9 till I was 13.My mom suffered from severe bouts of depression and even had a nervous breakdown, we got through it and moved on. But then my mom said she had enough and she went to visit and talk to her alone without us kids and then things slowly progressed to us visiting once a month or so. But it still wasn't the same as before everyone was so stuff and stilted with each other each afraid of saying something that would start the process all over again and we sure didn't have the closeness we had before the fallout. She tried in small ways to make up for it. She learned all the details and why the divorce had to happen he was a drunk..my mom just couldn't take it any longer and she seen that my mom didn't have a choice if she wanted to protect us kids. Me and and my mom had a small disagreement and it rippled he waters a bit in our relationship and I still have problems dealing with that still and it has been 3 years. We aren't as close as before either because of it. There are times I am depressed and feel all alone and that I have no one to turn to but I do I turn to Mylot and sometimes it helps me pull myself up by the bootstraps and continue on..

I disowned my only child (daughter) two years ago. She has made a few attempts to contact me but I ignore them. She stole 98% of all my retirement saving which took me many years of hard work and doing my best to help her out when she needed it, my total 401K account, had 2 of my 3 dogs put to sleep and ruined my credit.During the past few years before completely becoming estranged I kept forgiving her when she stabbed me in the back...big mistake... it only made her think I was complete fool. Then to find out when I was in the hospital she could not wait for me to die so she could sell my house! Forgive her ..yes...forget...NEVER!

No, I haven't had that experience,but it must be very painful for you.

i was abandoned at the age of 3 and my nanna came to the rescue and raised me as her own daughter for all of my life, the person who gave birth to me favoured her daughter who she has to a guy who she hardly knew, she never ever gave me that mothers love, she did say to me once that she had me out of spite to get back at her other (my nanna) hw ruel is that? she has never once got me a birthday card or christmas present, she bad mouths me and calls me nasty names, she has turned people against me in the past, i don't consider her a mother, i consider her a callous cold hearted individual who should have been sterilised before she had me because she didn't want me and my nanna had to stop her terminating her pregnancy when she was having me, if i see her on the street i won't talk to her, she means nothing to me at all, all she is to me is the egg donor....i won't even admit that i have the same bloodline as her and i dny all knowledge of her being, the only mother i have ever had is my nanna....all i did was be born and i was treated like dirt all because this person didn't want me, but i am over that now and i can say that she has lost out on my kids being born and missed out on 2 gorgeous great grandchildren, her bully of a husband is dead now so she has only one person in her life, and that's the daughter that she wanted, she is not right in the head anyways and i blame the mother for this because she raised her in a family full of bad people....

I have never disowned anyone nor has any one disowned me in my belief. I do feel that I could have been shown more attention and affection growing up. It has affected me through life.
I don't believe there should be enough animosity in a household where it comes to the point where disowning makes its way into the situation.

My mom and i do not see eye to eye. She has a different version of how to live our lives. She thinksit is the responsibility of the kids to make the parents rich! I think it is the kids repsonsibility to give them a comfortable life. She even told my kids to make me rich and i hated her for that. I do not think she has a right to say that to my kids. Now, she can only see her favorites and all the rest are just relatives. if she treats us like this, we are just in the same boat.