Death: Fact of Life we Refuse to Acknowldge?

Please don't be so cynical, sometimes life is so sad. I take pity on that girl. But she has passed away. Some are alive, and some are just dead. Why not learn to face the truth, face the world? Maybe God is too jealous of her. Or one's life has been destined by God, we can't change it.

WOW this is a tough topic. You are right death is a hard one to face. We as humans tend not to like talking about it.

My mom never talked about it with my sister and I. We never new what she wanted in case she left us behind. When she did leave we were left with not just the void of being without mom. But now we had to wonder what kind of service did she or did she not want. Did she want to be buried or creamated.

Death is an ugly subject for us. Its sad and its terribly dreary. I thought that I learned my lesson after mom. But how quickly I fell back into my old habits or forgetting to say those 3 little words that can mean the world..."I Love You."

Good day.. Yes, death doesn't respect age or gender. I mean it's sad but as we all know that when one is born, one is also destined to die. As one can't predict the exact time of birth so it is with the exact time of death. I guess we just have to do the best we can when we're still alive and love those who really meant something to us.

You know milfea, you are right. We all will face death sometime. It could be tonight, tomorrow, or fifty years but we will all die one day. I think each of us has a natural instinct to live though. To fight with all our might to live. And this is as it should be. If we sat around thinking that we are going to die, we would be miserable and never get anything accomplished. We have to live while we are living.

I have faced the death of so many family memebers that it sometimes gets me down and I think I am close to drawing my last breath. But I know I can't live like that. I have to get up and get out and do something. I have to keep living.

But you are also right when you say that we should be kind and sensitive and to love and show love to the people who matter to us. And it's for the very reason, that we never know when that special someone may die, or we may die and leave words unsaid that we would like to have said. So we need to tell people what we want them to know now. Not put it off.

I lost my granddaughter to a terrible disease, Spinal Muscular Atrophy when she was eighteen months old. She taught me a lot about living and dying and how to cram a world of love into a short eighteen months. We lived and breathed for her. Her world was filled with love. We had the opportunity of knowing and therefore building many, many loving memories with her.

Then a year after she died, I lost my husband of 36 years, suddenly to a heart attack. He had never been sick. I never dreamed that he would die before me. I was the one in poor health, but you just never know. I did'nt get to tell him goodbye. This hurts so bad, but I do have the knowledge that we had a happy loving thirty six years together and am very grateful for that.

So we just have to keep pushing forward, trying our best and remembering to give lots of love to those who are important to us.

That's all we can do. We just keep trying, we just keep living.

Hugs,
Nana

Death is a strange thing. Sad that we would realize their worth after they are gone. All that should be communicated while they are alive. If you don't do just that then you will hurt because things were not resolved during their life.

Hey there milftea, I think what you are pledging is for people to appreciate more. I wish it will happen too but sadly, humans are humans.Humans have weaknesses and from my observation, a lot of them are insensitive to other people's feelings. To change the attitude of human beings is like asking smokers to quit smoking. It's very difficult although it is definitely possible. I always view death as a pleasant thing as I believe in life after death. Of course we feel sad when a soul is taken by God. It is a humanly feeling to feel sad because of a person leaving us but I always wished them the best in the after life and I know one day I will join them sooner or later.^^

As the scriptures say, we should all be ready to die. But human as we are, it's hard to face it. We may say that we are ready yet we still fear about many things including leaving our family, relatives and friends. Or we may think of living more years on earth as we have not yet settled some unfinished business with people you encountered in the past. That is a fact. But it's hard to accept it.

well, death is the destiny of all human kind. as was written in Hebrews 9:27.. it is a sad fact for those who do not know where they are going. however, to those who know and assured where we are going, then it is just but a beginning of a life that is filled with awe and much happiness.. as exemplified by Paul, death is the end of his life here on earth, but he is rest assured that the future life he has will be much better.. though the birthpain is there, but in time, we will be able to accept that sad fact...

Death is a part of life. I don't think we intentionally take one another for granted. I think since we don't think about death, we always think there will be a tomorrow to show appreciation. We do talk about death to some degree in my family. My mother has stated what she does and doesn't want to happen regarding funeral services and I have told her what I will and won't do regarding her wishes. She doesn't want a service. I explained to her that her grandchildren would be devestated by that. We have agreed on a private service. She isn't sick or anything, it's just something we have discussed. I have discussed with my adult children and with my mother and siblings who and how my minor children are to be raised should I unexpectedly die. I think past generations used to be more prepared for death than we are today. Maybe because through medical breakthroughs we can extend life so much longer, we have a false sense of security about staving off the inevitable. Therefore we don't face it. But in my grandmother's and greatgrandmother's time, "having your affairs in order" in case of death was a natural part of life. It was part of being a responsible adult. Additionally, more emphasis was placed on living a life that acceptable to GOD so that when you die you would go home to HIM was also done as a preparation for death.

Not all people refuse to acknowledge the fact about death. Some are afraid of it, some ignore it but that doesn't mean that she/he is afraid of it. Appreciation of something need not be expressed in words, some choose to keep it on their hearts.