He pizzed all over

Maybe you can try the adult depends. that way if he has an accident, it will not damage the carpet or floor. My mother uses them, she is able to go to the rest room, but sometimes her bladder leaks before she can reach it.
He can change it himself in the morning. When he gets tired of doing that, maybe he will be a little more careful at night, and will then be able to have his beverage at his bedside.
Good luck

How about talking to the doctor about some desmopressin, it suppresses urine production. He could take it at night before going to bed. Then you make sure he gets up to pee in the morning before he has a chance to make a mess.

Then he can drink in the evening, though I would cut out the take a drink to bed thing and it is a compromise for you both.

Of course, this may not be allowed if Dad has a BP problem, but ask the doc. It can't hurt.

And no, you are not being mean, maybe linoleum and an area rug maybe better.

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No I have not had to deal with a situation like that in an adult. I do think you are right though in cutting back what time the last drink is and not allowed to take any to bed.

Well I'm also a caregiver to a relative. Until you walk in the same shoes as we do I really think it would be unfair to be too judgemental. If the urine problem was a problem I'd say it may be time for a nursing home but based on what you say here sounds like a serious case of laziness, and brother do I know what you're going through. No you're not being mean but now a days with the way the law is here in Canada, if you even suggest that they sound have to clean the mess or if you limit the drinking before bed it's pretty much classed as abuse on the elderly. I flat out said, "There will no longer be drinking in the bedroom and if the mess continues you will have to be placed elsewhere." If that was abuse it's just to GD bad but I can tell you it took care of the situation for me. Good luck my friend. I hope like hell there's a place in heaven for caregivers!!!

Reducing the intake of fluids may help the problem. Unfortunately if he doesn't want to get up in the middle of the night to void you may try Serenity pads for men.

This must be very frustrating for you - and for your poor Dad, GB. Have you considered having him wear a nappy at night? I think you call them diapers in America - but they are big pads for incontinent people. Your Dad might not be too pleased about wearing one, but it would save you a lot of hassle!

hi Grandpa Bob as I am the elder one here I couldnt make
it without my water glass at bedtime. but I would take him to
see his doctor to check out his voiding as he might have
a prostrate problem that is causing that. also he should force'
himself to get up and walk to the bathroom as a person empties his bladder much more in the bathroom than using a urinal. I
used to work as a nurses aid so learned a few things. I sometimes
wake and need to go and have to really hop to it so I do not dribble on the floor. I think this subject is harder on a male than on us females because our anatomy is so different. I dont think you are really wrong cutting down on his drinking at night but I wouldnt ban him having a glass of water handy if his throat gets dry. older people often have dry throats at night. I know his having had a stroke must make it more difficult too.thank goodness I havent had a stroke. I do take pretty good care of myself.

My brother, when he was a kid, was like that but my mom would just clean up after him and not say anything. He was not allowed to drink anything after dinner because of his problems. My uncle also, when he was dyeing of cancer had a tendency to just go where ever and I did have to clean up after that but he was not mentally there so you really could not blame him.

I think you should talk to his doctor about this. Because you want to eliminate both physical and mental problems your Dad may be having due to the stroke..If he is ok in those areas, I don't think limiting his liquid intake at night, as long as he is not getting dehydrated, would be ok..