I'm afraid I can't have a baby.

Well you know that having a baby is not the only purpose to get married,i know a lot of people that is married and dont have a baby but still their happy with their relationship,if you cant have any baby then why should you let it bother you,its all up to you and what you want to do with your life that will make you happy and even if you cant do what you like there is always a second option right so dont feel lonely or depressed about it,have a nice day.

this is just my opinion and i wanted you to at least read my reply.
i admire you because you warn him that incase you cant give him a baby you wont marry him but darling, what he said to you is enough for you to believed that she loves you more that his wish to have. Having baby is his secondary option and i hope you are understand that.

This guy loves you and he wanted you more than the baby he expect to have in you. So if you can afford losing someone that loves you go ahead hurt him and tell him you can't marry him because you can't bear a baby.

Now my question do you love this guy? if you do, then why you are going to dump him if its okay with him that you can't bear baby? please think about it before you decide because if you love this person u are not hurting him alone you are also hurting yourself.

I think the problem here is more that you don't have enough time to get pregnant. 3 months is not a very big window considering that you only have a few days each month you can get pregnant (IF you even ovulate that month, most women don't ovulate every month) and I am sure the stress of him coming in town and leaving again completely messes up your cycle.

In my opinion, you should not base your marriage decision on this. Base it on how you feel about him. Sounds like he doesn't care if you can have a baby ior not, he loves you regardless and that is what matters.

I think more so of the reason why you wanted to have a baby is to have one of your own or it's because you're afraid that if you weren't able to bear a child, he would leave you for sure and divorce you.
It's understandable but if what he said is true, you could wait until after you are married to have a child together.
Even though what I am about to say might make you mad or at least jealous, I have three girls with the same guy for 13 years.
We're not married and in some way, i do understand why you wanted a son to give to him.
My hon assured me that one of our daughters will give him a grandson someday.
In my opinion, I still do feel bad but for now, I can't stand the pregnancy thing again but I have been wanting another baby.
My youngest is 8 months old now and if I do plan to get another, it would be a bad idea since my financial situation is pretty bad right now.

Well, I see your point kindof... You don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering if he is ok with just his girl...But there are other ways around having a baby if you can't carry one... have you ever considered a seragate mother or adoption?.... Just something to think about... I hope this helped a little good luck to you!

First of all I want to say that you and your husband are in a really difficult situation being apart for such a long time. You've got a lot of married life to fit into that three months, and I imagine that it must be a stressful situation for both of you.

Somebody has already made the point that three months just isn't a lot of time to give yourself to try for a baby. You're only going to be fertile for a few days each month, and on average it takes between six months and a year. Then add to this the fact that you're stressed about the situation. You're putting an enormous amount of pressure on yourself for it to happen during this small window that you have together. You're even saying that (in your mind) you're whole relationship depends on getting pregnant. And stress is a massive cause of infertility.

So one piece advice would be that you need to try to relax. Don't make having a baby the be-all-and-end-all of your relationship. While you're doing this you're probably jeopardising your chances of conceiving.

You say that your decision to leave your husband if you can't conceive is for his own good. But if he loves you and wants to be with you whether or not you have a baby, then by leaving him you will only be making him very unhappy, perhaps completely ruining his life. Do you really want this for him?

And you're probably causing him to be stressed as well if he constantly has in the back of his mind the thought that you're going to leave him if there's no baby soon. Two stressed people are unlikely to make a baby.

Once you've established that you love eachother and you're both reassured that you'll stay together come what may, then just make the most of those precious three months together. Just be with oneanother, appreciate eachother, talk, relax together, have fun! And once you are relaxed and this stress disappears, you'll be much more likely to conceive.

I think you are stressed more than you realize and you need to rethink what you are doing.

I think you make sense. But in a way you should also consider other options. Being married doesnt have to consist of having children. Most couples do want to have kids, but I dont think that should stop you from marrying him if you love him. I would go to the doctor and get checked out. If you are not able to bear on your own, they do have fertility treatments available that could help you become pregnant, or there is also the possibility of seragate mother, or even adoption. I think that your man loves you and thats why it hurts his feelings when you say those things. He wants to marry you because he loves you not because you can or cannot bear another child for him. But I would look into fertility treatments after seeing the doctor. Goodluck

Hi friend,
Don't lose hope for having a baby,Just continue praying and faith in God.God will Provide

Well, sometimes, us girls, pressured ourselves to give the best that we can give even if we already had gave it. I understand that you are afraid of something, but, you are not concerned of his easier exit in marriage once you cant bear a child. But don't think negatively. If you will get pregnant, it is because it's your time to have one, but if you cant, maybe tomorrow or next year, or maybe you are destined the other thing. But if you were thinking like that, I dont think you love your boyfriend so much as he loves you.