How to deal with shyness?  |
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 I'm sure some of you have experienced shyness before? What's your best way of dealing with it so it doesn't get in the way of your life?
I think some people are just shy because they think too much.
Do you just go all out and do it, somehow, and not think of the consequences?
Or do you have some other way of dealing with this?
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1.  Scotlandthebrave (1290) | 3 months ago |  I hope that someone here comes up with something
Because I am really shy.
I experience it all the time,especially when I meet girls and ladies,well ladies really.
No one has ever said I think to much,
There never are consequences because my shyness always wins.
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 stmech0 (1339) | 3 months ago |  Well done Jimbo, I think You're coming to terms with it.
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 likaes (324) | 3 months ago | I'm shy most of the time because I have no idea what to say to the other person, so I tend to shy away. If I have something engaging to say - I consider saying it. But sometimes I wait too long and the conversation shifts - then it'd be awkward for me to say it then! So, thats why I think too much. Haha. | |
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2.  Sheepie (2321) | 3 months ago |  I hear you. Shyness makes you miss out on a lot of fun. It's really inconvenient. I'm trying to overcome mine. Try to rationalize your fears, ask yourself why your stomach is tightening and you feel like you're make of marshmallows. Why?
It also helps to stop thinking and just say what you want to say and do what you want to do, and do it quickly so you don't get a chance to get nervous. You're more capable of overcoming it than you think, once you start to overcome it, it gets better and better.
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| likaes (324) | 3 months ago | That's quite good advice, I think. But easy-to-say, hard to put into practice I think. Oh well, I'll try harder the next time. | |
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| 3. lilaclady (17528) | 3 months ago |  When I was a little girl I was so shy I used to hide even from my relatives in an outside loo with no light and I was terrified of the dark so that is shy...I think it is just a case of being so unsure of yourself, I had no confidence in myself at all...but it just took one person to come into my life, someone special, he lifted me by having faith in me and gave me that confidence I needed...i think it just takes someone to show you, you can do anything...
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| likaes (324) | 3 months ago | Sounds like you have a really good person watching over you... | |
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| lilaclady (17528) | 3 months ago | I think what you have to remember is most people even the confident ones are really a little shy inside but some are good at covering up..take a lot of celebrities, you will find are really shy but they are very good at putting on an act...
The person who helped me was a singer and musician and was in his younger days a very popular performer, on stage he was outrages, wild and had thousands of girls screaming after him but when I met him I soon found out it was all a cover because he was so shy .... I think you you think about making other people feel good in your company you automatically lose the shyness... | |
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| Scotlandthebrave (1290) | 3 months ago | Jesus,
You must force Yourself to face the world, act with confidence and assertion and You quickly learn that the world has it's own troubles and does not have all eyes on You.
In the 2 years I have known you online,
Thats the most profound thing you have ever said
I beseech you get best response!!! | |
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| likaes (324) | 3 months ago | I think being too self-conscious can make you shy too. It's true that you say that not everyone's attention will be focused on you. They are too busy focusing on themselves, as much as you are focusing on yourself. | |
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| stmech0 (1339) | 3 months ago | That's true, hard to get out of your head though, always wondering if You're doing the right thing, walking properly, not drawing attention to Yourself, now and then though, for some reason You will find Yourself comfortable with a group of people, or in a situation and that is the time to grasp the moment and build on it, it becomes easier the more You face it.
Thank You jimbo, I still don't think it's as profound as my monkey spanking post though. | |
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| 5. failsafe_o5 (93) | 3 months ago |  i was a very shy person... actually i really still am only i've learned to fake it. and i guess i fake it well.
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| Hope32 (104) | 3 months ago |  You are right fake til you make it is what they say!
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| likaes (324) | 3 months ago | I think you're one of those people who just try and overpower their shyness through force of will. I've tried that a few times, but sometimes it doesn't work as well for me. Although it has worked, and I'm able to get rid of my shyness for a fleeting moment. Though if people ask me questions I break down=/ | |
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| 6. lucy67 (639) | 3 months ago |  i think the main reason for one's shyness is that he cares too much about others opinions about him. if he is more confident and doesn't care what others will say, he can feel better. but shyness belongs to one's character, so it's not so easy to change it.
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| 7. katkat (1362) | 3 months ago |  I’m a shy person with strangers or people I don’t know very well but with the people I know I’m not a shy person. I force myself to talk to my classmates, especially the ones that not my friends. I tried to socialize with them to overcome my shyness. I start to talk to other people in my Architecture Department about professors and subjects. It’s not much caused I’d still feel shy whenever I approached someone but at least I beginning to overcome it. Socializing is a great way to overcome shyness.
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