Does God answer prayers depending on the emotions presented

I always thought the ones who made a big show were the ones who got their prayers answered. Now I have a husband who is an unbeliever, and no matter how much I pray, my husband has not wanted to go to church. On top of that, my husband had a stroke but he still does not want to go to church. Now I just learned that I more likely have br*st cancer on top of being borderline diabetic, the latter I suspected I was for some time. So is God doing this to get my husband to repent? My life is difficult already. So what is next me getting a heart attack and what if that does not work? I had a difficult life, was always struggling with money, went through not being able to get pregnant and carry a baby to term since I got married, I mean unless they make it illegal to go to church and arrest all the Christians and execute them what else can happen?

I totally agree. In addition, God already knows the choices you will make in your life. Sometimes he doesn't answer your prayer because he knows that you cannot handle it or it's not what you need at that time. Everything God does is right on time and works for the good. So relax and continue to pray and know that God will ALWAYS show up when he needs to. He LOVES you and wants the best for you. Our judgement sometimes isn't always the best.

Remember - we only know the past and present. But God knows the past, present and future. Trust him.

It sounds like you have dealt with a great many trials. God must have something very special in store for you. Stay faithful and continue praying. God will not make your husband go to church. Your husband has a right to choose, it is part of God's gift. Each man has his free agency. When you pray ask the Lord to soften your husbands heart so that he will know that God lives. Perhaps he will be moved and decide to return to the church. Perhaps he will be moved but still refuse. It is his free will to choose. If I were you I wouldn't worry to much about your husbands salvation. Let your husband decide his own morality. You focus on your salvation, and the light of Christ will be with you.

I just have to add that I believe people will be given a chance to accept Christ on the judgment day. Even if your husband does not accept Christ in this life, he will have the opportunity to do so after his death. Do not become disheartened, death is not the end. It is the beginning. Believe in your husband, I'm sure when it comes down to it he will make the right decision.

Your trials are not punishments. God does not use suffering to bully his children. Your trials are blessings, meant for you betterment. I know it is difficult for you to understand, but in the end it is true. God is like a mother taking her child in for a shot. The baby does not understand that the medicine will save him. All the child sees is that the mother is allowing him to be injured. Once he is grown he will understand, and upon the day you meet your Lord and Savior you too will see the reasoning for your trials.

I am trying to get through this. I am still praying for my husband. Right now things are on hold as I am waiting to go to the hospital for the biopsy and I am doing what I can to reduce the tumor, if that is that, by natural means, eating the proper food, and having more faith in God that HE will heal me without the surgeon's knife. I am trying to be less complacent as that was my trouble and also to worry less. It seemed I never could reach a happy medium.

The trouble is that I am rather a laid back type of person. I hardly ever cry unless it hurts so much that I have to and then I follow it with a bout of depression. I also am not what you would call spiritual, more of a pragmatic, and that makes it difficult. When I go out for a walk, I see trees and sky, etc. I do not say things like God is in the trees, or HIS presence is everywhere. I just take that for granted and do not express it like some more spiritual do. I just know God is there. I just do not like to have to prove by screaming and stomping my foot to get God to listen and besides with my husband home, I cannot do that.

But they are men and men are not expected to cry. I am a woman and I am not into crying that much and when I finish praying, I feel calm. Does that calmness after wards show a "I really don't care if this prayer is answered or not," and God takes it as indifference?

That makes it sound much better. So the reason I did not get pregnant was because I prayed it again. I should have just thanked him for allowing me to get pregnant. I will have to do the same thing about praying for the reversal of my tumor and thanking God for doing it. I wish I knew this over thirty five years ago when I was trying to get pregnant. I guess I learn things too late.

I am still waiting for an answer for one of my prayers. I am not into emotion and I often wondered whether when I did not receive an answer that I should have immediately give up on my bad habits, but I remember when I was trying to get pregnant during my marriage, I had hardly any booze, except for around Christmas and I got the idea that is when God decided to answer the prayer. I was not a Christian then and I thought that God would let my husband get me pregnant because I had a glass of wine and if I never had a glass of wine HE would not. So that is how my mind worked then. I never harmed a child, and never would, so that reason God did not grant you a baby because you will harm it does not make any sense. The only reason is that it is nothing to do with me nor my husband, but maybe God showing how unforgiveness of others can hurt. But they will not know until judgment day.

I find it hard for me to have faith. I have a little, but not as much as I should. I look on the human thing that it is humanly impossible for the prayer to be answered and I get all this, "God wants you to suffer, or God is preparing you for heaven" and I think well does that mean that in two years I will suddenly drop dead, then I would have the doctor shake his head and say I have but two years to live. But what if he says I can live another twenty or more years. Unless I am offered a job as a religious worker or someone I know dies and I have to take care of their baby or children, how much preparation do I need?
And when you pray for years and it is still not answered and we are supposed to believe that what we pray for comes true as long as it is in HIS WILL, I take that to mean as long as it will not harm anyone.
So I usually pray that the prayer is answered the way I want it to (no not talking about cadillics, fancy jewelery, or stuff like that) but in such a way that God is honored and no one is harmed.

I just want to share my personal experience in prayer. Faith is important thing that I asked in prayer and give thanks for it for it is God's gift. I do not focus my mind to myself and my own want, but rather what I see in other's needs. I always ask for forgiveness and ask for strength in doing good to others.

It all depends on what you consider want or need. Surely healing is considered a need if that also means that you will be able to help someone else. If I were to die or get worse, what will happen to my husband? And of course, I do not want to have the tumor grow, but rather to shrink because the consequent cost in clothes and supported garments would mean that things that we need to do around the house could not be done. I do not pray for things that I can do myself, except for making the right decisions, and to manage my budget and not waste my money as if I wasted my money, I would not get what I wanted but there are somethings like health and unforseen circumstances I cannot do myself. I need God's intervention.

God always answered prayers but I heard that it seems when someone makes a big stink about it that HE will answer that prayer. But maybe it is because that is when we notice it and I do not like getting emotional about things. I mean I heard of pastors really crying and sobbing and I thought God hears their prayers. Our pastor does not do that.

That sounds good. I have to get more trust in God and not rely on my emotions.

I do that. I ask God to answer my prayer and I am willing to wait, but sometimes I wonder if I wait until it is impossible with man whether HE will take a failure of mine a reason for not answering it with a yes. It is frustrating though since I do not know how long to wait.

I am not emotional but I do hold grudges and I have a good memory and could put things and incidents together. I can remember those who helped me in the past, but I also can remember those who hurt me and started the ball rolling towards the decisions that they made that caused me to feel I had to make the wrong decisions. That is why I am very careful to not to do anything that would cause another person to sin as it were. So I always pray to God for wisdom, but sometimes it does not seem to come like last Sunday, it was just a little cool, so I decided to put on my nylons, but most of the ladies around were still in their bare legs and sandals and the trouble was that my nylons were black and the other ladies except two were either bare legged or the nylons were natural and looked barelegged.
So I guess I have to pray extra hard to not make booboos.

I do not believe in god and feel that prayer does nothing but help you manage the task ahead, much like meditation i think its just a focal point..

But so what, we all need one right?

I just try to believe in myself.

I believe in God and that HE can heal us and answer our prayers if we do believe. So that is what I am doing praying and believing.