Marriage

Hmm... I have to be careful on this response because my wife is on my friend's list and will read this. lol. But seriously, we're both on our first marriage and we've been married for 6 years and five months. I can't say that we've been happily married the entire time, but dang, we make it work. I have to say that I truly believe we would not have the same bond we do now if we wouldn't have been as "tested and proved" as we are now. I have to admit that I have not seem anyone with a truly happy marriage that is that way all the time. But I do see a lot of marriages that end because someone in the relantionship is simply unwilling to try. So I am thankful for my wife and her ability to match my attempts to make this relantionship work. And she's reading this over my shoulder right now! Nevermind, I'm getting a horrible look, so yes, We have been happily married the entire time.

Hi mibngold, we'll be celebrating our 6th anniversary this month. This was our first and we want it to last for life. We have been great so far, we have two kids, tommorow we don't know but we promise each other that we won't give up no matter what's happen. Goodluck to you.

let me say this. Being happy is a state of mind. None of us are perfect and we all have faults and flaws. However when you make a commitment to someone to live with them until death parts you it is huge and it takes a lot of work. You not going to be%100 percent happy every single minute of every single day. That does not mean you do not love your mate. It means you have to work on something or move on or overlook something. We cannot change someone and too many make the mistake of thinking they will change the person they married. They have to be willing to change first. Accepting them for who and what they are and allowing them the freedom to grow and explore is essential in any marriage. Many make the mistake of thinking they OWN their mate. We never own them. We need to allow them the freedom to be themselves have their own friends sometimes seperate from our own and some we share. To trust them and not worry about them. I am happy with my husband we will celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary in April 2009 and looking forward to it. We have had our ups and downs, and differences but we are content and love one another and accept one another for who and what we are. I do not own him and he does not own me. We give and take and trust and have a great marriage. We still hold hands and we dance and laugh and make love and it is wonderful to be married to my one and only husband of almost 40 years.

Well, I've only been married for almost 5 months, but I guess I'm happy. I mean, I'm really not a happy person, so it's hard for me to use that term. We have our problems and he p!sses me off, but I don't want anyone but him and we need each other, so I guess that's pretty much as happy as I'm gonna get.

Be truly happy... it is difficult. To be happy one has to know about caring for others. Those who wish to make others happy will be able to be happy. Most people are ego and wish to keep all for me mentality. When one come from this mentality, he/she could be happy. This is the case in marriages as well. Marriage is divine and if you share all with your partner, could live happy together.

My marriage is OK so far. Anyhow, it is just about 2 years old, so I might tell you different story after another 3 or 5 years.:)

I think a forever love greatly depends on our huge effort to trust,to support and to love the other half, and to let go the sad memory. To me, the difficult part here is let go. We always live in a sad memory which prevent us to believe in better future. I'm still learning to let go the past and be optimistic about future.

My parents will have been married 56 years this month, and yes they went through some hard times but for the most part have had a happy marriage, and it was their only marriage. As for me, I have been through 3 divorces, the marriages lasted 1 year, 5 years, and 16 years, respectively. I have been in my present relationship for a little over 3 years, and we don't even discuss marriage, he's been divorced 3 times also. We are happy with the way things are and are not even considering marriage at this point.

If rightly assessed every one has some problems .some have little and some major.

Happiness and sorrow are simply 2 state of mind and complicated by the factors creating them.
Instead of changing other person's mind,if we try at least try to change our thoughts only about the person we fight with, our life can start becoming simple,light and cherished.

I have felt the exact same way as you. I have never ever seen a forever marriage that was truly happy. I also got suckered by thinking there were some only to find years later they they split up and there was cheating and the like. I myself have been engaged three times and always got cold feet when I was thinking, forever ever??? That is a long time. I have now been happily unmarried for 12 years. We don't live together and though we have tough times we are still in love with each other. I can't say we will be together forever but I feel we are happy right now and that works for us.

We have been married for 23 yrs, not all of it "happy", but we are committed and we got through the tough times. I love my man very much. He's my best friend and he says I am his so I believe him. We look for contentment and peace, more than "happiness" as perpetual "happiness" is just something that the movies lie to you about. Although I would call myself "happy" in my marriage I wouldn't want anyone to mistakenly think that that means we have never had any problems.

If one expects to be happily married 24/7 for the rest of ones life, then one is living in a fantasy world. Marriage takes commmitment and compromise. Many times it takes giving without expecting anything in return. Some people are just too selfish for that and that's understandable. Maybe some people should assess themselves more thouroughly before committing to long term relationships.

True love, in my opinion, goes so far beyond all the 'romantic' fantasy stuff. True love really does stand the test of time, because it loves even when love seems to be unreturned. True love is strong, committed, resilient.....flexible.