What would you do if..........

I would have given him the same advice, it's important that they learn to fight their own battles when faced with bullies. I used to be bullied on when I was younger and my dad always stood up for us kids. I grew up being a coward and shy of anything. I think my best experience was doing telemarketing. I got rejected so many times it became a challenge to win someone over. Now I am very daring and I can't shut up

It depends on what level of "bullying" is happening. If it involves getting my child hurt, I would go straight to the school and confront the child with his/her parents in front of the school directress or principal. I would make sure that it will never happen again.

Your advice was great too.. if the kid bullying would just keep quiet and go away if my child said "NO". Chances are the more they would bully. Congratulations to your kid for being able to stand up for himself! Such a great achievement. I am praying that when my child goes to school, no one would bully her or she would not bully anyone. LOL!

I think you have done a right job.It is the best way to deal with school bullying.Also I can give you some tips for your further future,
* Encourage your child to share his or her concerns. Remain calm, listen in a loving manner and support your child's feelings. Express understanding and concern. You might say, "I understand you're having a rough time. Let's work together to deal with this." Remind your child that he or she isn't to blame for being bullied.
* Learn as much as you can about the situation. Ask your child to describe how and when the bullying occurs and who is involved. Ask if other children or adults have witnessed any bullying incidents. Find out what your child may have done to try to stop the bullying.
* Teach your child how to respond to the bullying. Don't promote retaliation or fighting back against a bully. Instead, encourage your child to maintain his or her composure. He or she might say, "I want you to stop now," and then simply walk away. Suggest sticking with a friend or group of friends while on the bus, in the cafeteria or wherever the bullying seems to happen. Remind your child that he or she can ask teachers or other school officials for help.
* Contact school officials. Talk to your child's teacher, the school counselor and the school principal. If your child has been physically attacked or otherwise threatened with harm, talk to school officials immediately to help determine if the police should be involved. Don't contact the bully's parents yourself. You may also want to encourage school officials to address bullying as part of the curriculum.
* Follow up. Keep in contact with school officials. If the bullying seems to continue, be persistent.
* Boost your child's self-confidence. Help your child get involved in activities that can raise self-esteem, such as sports, music or art. Encourage your child to make contact with friendly students in his or her class and develop his or her social skills.
* Know when to seek professional help. Consider professional or school counseling for your child if his or her fear or anxiety becomes overwhelming.

If your child is being bullied, remember that early intervention can help prevent lasting problems — such as depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. Don't leave your child to handle it alone. Your child needs your support now more than ever.Best of luck for your future my friend.

Isn't it a shame what stress our children of today have. I often think about my grandchildren and wonder where life will lead them. My daughter is very good with the kids and she has beter than just contact with school staff so that's a blessing too.

My son was bullied a few times. I gave the same advice as you did by telling him to not give in to the demands of the bully.

But if that didn't work, I would complain to the head of the school and I'd get the parents down and discuss the incident with the school head and the parents in front of my son and the boy who was bullying him. This always worked and it also helped the bully's parents know of the harrassment and pain their son was causing to another child.

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I believe you gave your son good advice. Not all bullies will back down though and some may become physical. If the bullying continued I would go directly to the school and consult with the principal. Most schools have a no tolerance policy against bullying. I was bullied when I was a kid and did stick up to them. They retaliated by getting a kid in a lower grade (they were all quite larger)to physically attack me. The kid was still bigger than me. It traumatized me for years.

you did a good job!

my kid's (daugther)in preschool and she had a classmate who was always bullying her. he would always pick on my daughter at every chance he could get. i told her teacher about it, and her teacher said she has been trying to get them together but the boy was just mean. i told my daughter to show her classmate she wasn't afraid of him. i think there was one time i told her to sock him (lol) but i guess after months of school he finally stopped picking on my kid.

Yes,I think we can see the same troublesome problem usually in our life.Many of the children in the school now are facing the similar problems.They have to face the threat from other children.I think parents should tell their children that they should not afraid of them,.Just as you have said above,they should be proud of themselves and there is a fair power in the society that can punish the evil.That could be benefit for their future growth.

That was great advice you gave your child.If it had proceeded,I would of went to the school with my child and and had the other child and his parents present and discussed the problem together. happy mylotting