After marriage girls should work or not?

Thanks for your response. Even I would like to work after my marriage. I can manage my professional and personal work.

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First of all, why do we marry?
Marriage is an institution that unites a male and female to jointly figure out the needs of each other and combinely face problems of life with courage and confidence.
For acheiving this goal, nothing is less important work or work of lesser importance.
For example ...there are genrally two portions on which one has to concentrate....the family needs and the outside family needs.

If one partner is taking responsibility of family care and other partner is taking care of outside family needs like outside job then its okay always.
But if both the partner start taking the same responsibilty then there comes a stage when one is overburdend and the other is less burdened. And I think thats not a justice at all.

Frankly coming to topic. If husband is doing job and is able to take care of families financial and social needs then the wife should take responsibilty of taking care of whole family itself. Being a housewife and taking care of family needs is not a small job and not an easy at all job. One should never underestimate it.

Similarly, if wife is ready to take outside family responsibilities then atleast husband should takle care of all family and housejob related responsibilities.

It is never classified that husband should only do job and wife should only take responsbility of family.
But the ideal is that one should do the job and the other should ttake care of family.

It could be like that wife do job an dhusband take care of family..no probs at all.

Now a days it has been a tradition to overburden women in the name of job . If you give her job then its you to take responsibilty of family and you should do. ...or vice versa

Well said!

If they 'allow' me? My fiance and I both make the decisions, not just him! We have both chosen that I WORK at home looking after our two kids, and yes that is WORK

I don't care if my wife works or not as long as she brings home the money.

I am male, and for sure I would allow my wife to work - but only if she feels comfortable. If She don't have a support at home to look after daily domestic activities, then she must stay back. If my wife is willing to work, then I have no problem to work at home - even take of kids (though I am not good at handling house-hold work - but I am ready to learn!)

The above one is a good comment.

I think this is one of the culture questions again. Here in Finland, almost always both, husband and wife, go to work. At least I have an understanding that in other countries this is different.

well said maasbaaz!!!!!!!!!

Hmm... good topic

I think it should depend on the situation. I personally am a stay at home mom. This really isn't by choice. My husband is active duty military and the only real jobs in this town that will hire military wives are the major food and chain stores (which shall remain nameless)because they know that we will be moving in 3 years or less and they don't want to invest their time in training somebody with a specialty background. I have an associates degree and am working on a bachelors degree. I did not spend 2 years in school learning a trade to become a cashier and earn minimum wage. So, I'm taking care of my children because their father is away more often than he is home and it wouldn't even be worth it for me to pay for child care because it's too expensive. Like I said, it depends on the situation. What kind of job does she have? Where do you live? Do you have kids?

WEll, Im my opinion, I'm think that women also have their right to keep working, even after marriage. Most of my female friends also have proof, that they can take good care to family & working as well.

I'm not sure what you mean by "allow" your wife to work...first off, I doubt any "boys" even have a wife, or that any woman wants to marry a 'boy'. I also think that most women today don't need to ask permission from their husbands. If they do, then the marriage is in trouble already.

But to answer your question....
It's not like it used to be years ago when the woman stayed home with the kids and the "bread winner" was invariably the husband. His job was to support the family financially while the woman took care of all the household needs and the children. It's different now because of how expensive even the most basic needs have gotten over the years - which has resulted in more women returning to the work place because of necessity, not luxury. So what it boils down to is not whether or not a woman would "like" to work after getting married, but whether she "has" to or not.

yes..i would like to work..but i know it is difficult to do work after marriege

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It depends upon couple to couple. If famil requires that earning from both members will fulfil their expenses and savings then, both work. If that is sufficiently earned from one member, then that is enough.

I think It is only Financial Status of a family..
Why you need your family member to work?
R u interested to earn more than Society persons?
R u not having earning strength?

I think Girl is a beautiful rose. she should spred flavour in her house Not for society.

i think i would prefer a girl who works....
She will be more efficient.....
afterall family life is a sharing right...

well said! I like your outlook.

yes they can work

yes they can work

yes they can work

I am a man and i will see to it that my wife works after marriage and i will support her in every way to work .If need arises i will drop her to work place

i hope everyone can realize the same as you do

i agree

I agree

I agree u yugu...it shud b ones decision to work or not no husband shud complell their wife to work or not....

n komal u seem to b very tensed abt ur life after marriage....wish u get a gud hubby who really understands u...coz many in oru country r against woman working after marriage...

gud luck dear...:)

Thankyou. I hope so.

Hi Buddies,

I will give full freedom to my life partner. i will not stop their ambitions.

I believe that whether a wife works or not depends on individual situations.

If there is a financial necessity, than I believe that she should work and help contribute to the household.

Without the financial need, I think the couple should discuss the situation together and decide what is best.

I completely agree!!!!

But do you think, if only financial need arises, then the wife should work.

Even if the house is in a good financial condition, women should be allowed to make their career in life...

Working is individual..A Girl or Boy..If the situation permits she can work..It also depends on the society she belongs..If she can manage both family and work it is fine..

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well it depends on various circumstances...only in financial need they should do work

nowadays, men and women have equal rights in this world. so i think, guys should allow their wives to work after marriage. this would not only help their family financially, but it can increase the wive's confident and positive outlook in life.
besides, it would be unfair if the wife stays at home and waits for her husband to come home daily. that would be boring on the wives' side.

maybe yes

My general suggestion to all men. If women say they want to work after marraige allow them don't stop.

I agree....

it won't mean that if you allow her to get a job of her own, you're turning her into a slave.but if she wants to work, then why deprive her from doing what she wants to do?

It's not about allowing or not, agree that she has the right to her own decision. However why should she not work after marriage? What is there for her to do at home? Unless if she has children - she may want to bring her children up herself.

I think its everyones individual CHOICE to what they want to do.. i myself have worked when having three small children and to tell you the truth i would of cracked up at home all the time. The man goes to work all week to bring the wage in and that is understandable but when the wife is home with three kids all day and its the same routeen it gets like a merry go round. We women also need our social and independent life. I also found college a great help and then found work, even when my children where small, i wouldnt of done it any different..lol minniemee

I must echo the sentiments of many people here and contribute my two cents to the discussion.

ALLOW? Your wife is not property. She can make her own decisions based on what she wants to, or what she thinks would be the best choice. I would work if I got married, simply because I want to and I wouldn't let my husband tell me what I can and cannot do. That's not marriage, that's ownership -- and relationships shouldn't work like that.

Under Islamic law the wife is the property of the husband, and allah says, if wife want to make poopy she must get husbands permission. And under the koran he is allowed to with hold permission up to 30 days.

I don't mean to seem rude or ignorant? But is that law still in effect in contemporary society? Because if it is I don't mean to appear judgemental but that is archaic and barbaric... It amazes me all the cultural and social differences in this world. I am so lucky to live in a country where my gender doesn't determine my social status and I am not considered "property" or bound by rigid religious and legal and social rules.

I agree with u....they shud be independent even after their marriage...and that even gives them the strength of taking their own decisions...!!!

Helloo "roztredtoes",,(Under the islamic law)????
Which law and religion you are talking about,, well honey first you should learn how to spell Quran than talk abt Islam.

en,,,great man

allow women to work. ANy way it is womens wish whether they want to work or not. But if they wish allow them.

I agree, it should be something decided between the couple. Unless high daycare prices are an issue, most couples would be better off financially with both working. With several kids in daycare, averaging $150 a week -- it might not pay for both parents to work or to work the same shift.

I feel it is just a casually used word. ALLOW does not seriously mean PERMIT. The right connotation is the husband does not utter anything.

Under websters dictonary, the exact definition is zip lip.

It is womens wish, whether they want to work or not

whew--what a relief---- you will "allow" "the wife" to help the family economically--she will need the money if she does not "allow" you to remain her husband---what is it with the allow?????

sorry but cant get what u want to imply. can u just atleast explain further? allow - permit

no implication at all-you do not allow or permit another human to do anything-you do not own them-they do what THEY want to do

amen to that

i stand to be corrected, but let me expound a little. we can't deny that there some guys out there who believe that they are the man, responsible for the livelihood of the family. and they think wives should take care the household. what am trying to say is, if the wife want to work and the hubby agree then its fine.

are you still driving a horse and buggy? what i am saying is if wife wants to work wife works.

thanks for the nice remarks... r u happy in doing it? we are discussing here, not to offend anyone. u can say whatever whats on ur mind but needless to insult anyone.

Dont it take it personal, it all depends on the individuals, society, backgroung and belief..., mylot is open to various categories of people. "To allow" does not necessarily mean one is a dictator. The man by some belief is responsible to provide for the home. if the woman decides to work it's her choice, ' TO ALLOW ' her to assist in the man's responsibilities is another.

yeah, u'r right i should not be so sensitive here...well to each his own,,, thanks

clever!

what is the harm in wife working, only it should not effect ur marital life

If the hushand earns enough to support the family then no need for the wife to work.

There may not be a finacial need for her to work in the scenario you described. If I end up s